coming out, so sweet but so sour

[Elanore joey]

So I'm fully out now iv told all of my close family in the last week I finally told my dad an hour ago and I don't know how to deal with what he said and that was OK FNE
He said this so quickly that it makes me feel he dosent care my sister said ir may be shock but I thought shock would take time
I now feel like I want to disown my dad but with the relationship we have I don't think I could as my dad is part of all my hobbies
But I now don't feel confident
Advice plz

[Christine167]

Probably a little too soon for disownment. Give him a few days to calm down and come to his senses. So far my only bad reaction, my wife, started horribly but then changed to a level of acceptance. Each time there is a noticeable change we have a fight. A day later she cools off and we discuss it again.

I won't lie it's not easy to keep people that have always been there in your life. Even if some of them accept the ones that do not won't make it any easy to spend time with the ones that do. For example if you mom accepts but your dad never does it will be difficult to spend a holiday with just your mom.

Take your time with it though. The psychology between the two sides leads us to feel like we are in a weak position reaching out for help. You should turn this around and shore up your feelings so that you can see clearly who your supporters are and work with them to build healthy relationships.

That and see a therapist or find an impartial person or very close friend to discuss your issues with. As much as you feel threatened and often insulted the people around us often do to. So we can't always speak everything that is on our mind to those we love. Having those people who can help us sort this out is priceless.

[Ltl89]

I agree with Christine.  It's too soon to disown your father.  It's still fairly early so try to be patient with him.  I understand how frustrating it can be.  I've been having a difficult time with my family myself, so I can relate.  But we need to give our loved ones time to adjust and understand everything.  Hopefully your relationship will only strengthen as a result of this. 

[Elanore joey]

i know what you are saying but after the great responses from my mum and sister its a really big let down
i mean after coming out to my sis and mum the first question was do you want to come clothes shopping next weekend (of course i do)
but even after sitting in the same room with my dad today for 6 hours he has not said anything to me let alone asked me any questions about being trans. in fact i think he thinks this is like something i have decided to do like getting a piercing or a tattoo

[Ltl89]

i know what you are saying but after the great responses from my mum and sister its a really big let down
i mean after coming out to my sis and mum the first question was do you want to come clothes shopping next weekend (of course i do)
but even after sitting in the same room with my dad today for 6 hours he has not said anything to me let alone asked me any questions about being trans. in fact i think he thinks this is like something i have decided to do like getting a piercing or a tattoo

I understand what you mean.  I haven't gotten the most favourable responses myself.  However, I realize that this is something they need to learn to live with.  Usually they don't see it coming.  At least, that's been my experience.  I haven't told my father yet, but my mother is sort of having a difficult time with it all.  My sisters on the other hand are really cool about it. People have different reactions and we have to learn how to deal with them, even if they aren't what we hoped for.  I'm sure your father will come around in time.  After all, silence isn't the worst initial reaction.  From what you have said here, I believe things will improve as you go along.