
I had a different experience to Adabelle's while I was in Chonburi. I was there at the same time. I was nervous (before going) because I have never coped well around people who are trans, but more especially those who have lived their lives as male, married and fathered children. Something I have never done and never could do. I have just celebrated my 55th birthday, so I was 54 when in Chonburi. I saw people who were younger than me having surgery but that didn't mean they were any more feminine than anyone else. I have to say that my surgery was done when I was very young...18. But back then, many people who might have wanted surgery never qualified because they hadn't lived long enough (as female) or weren't female enough. That's a terrible judgement (and not mine) but it was what prevented many from having irreversible surgery back then. I understand mine was done to save my life.
Back then there was so much prejudice in the world, and if you were challenged for not being what you appeared the consequences were dire. Now though, that prejudice has been swapped for human rights...In those days you simply didn't get surgery unless you were feminine enough.
I went to Chonburi for FFS and there were one or two other girls there having similar, but nothing as extensive as mine. Most were there for SRS.
There were people having SRS which shocked me. One is seared in my memory because I could never relate to her as female. The first time I saw her I thought she was an older male man who was a bit weird. When I later learned she had SRS I was worried how she would fit in a female world and I didn't feel any closer to her.
There were some beautiful people there and I was fortunate enough to meet (one) and I spent a considerable amount of time with her and her Mum. We went on little trips together, into Bangkok and out for meals. (We still keep in touch with each other from opposite sides of the world)
But the rest of the time was very lonely. So much so that I cancelled the last week of my booking at the hotel and came home a week earlier. This was expensive as my room rate was adjusted (more expensive) but it was worth all the added expense, including the extra cost to fly home earlier.
I am returning to Chonburi in 2014 but I won't be alone. I will be with my best friend and we will share the experience just as we share so many others. (I am having SRS repair - as Dr Suporn said, my surgery represents what was done 30-40 years ago) No one should have to live with what they did to us back then, the surgery was hideous.
Footnote: Both of us are soon to journey together to Seoul where I will undergo VFS at Yeson. Both of us are excited and can't wait. My friend will finally enjoy not having to listen to my opinions, at least for a week!
But we won't be alone, we'll have each other and these journeys will never be forgotten because of what they will represent.