Wishy,
For those of us outside of the black and white classifications, it's hard to find exactly where we fit. There are plenty of 'feminine' guys out there, and they don't even have to be gay. There's plenty of 'butch' straight women as well.
The question we ask, of course, is how many of them are just hiding the truth from others and themselves, but not everyone wants to lift weights every day. Not everyone likes pink, or wants to wear makeup. Some people can't throw a ball to save their lives, and can't walk in heels. We conform as best we can to the stereotypes of the gender we align with, because it's a constant uphill battle to ensure we fit in. But normal people don't have to do that, don't even consider it an issue. Heck, lots of normal, straight women enjoy mens' underwear for comfort... I don't imagine too many transwomen keep a pair of boxers around for lazy days, but I may be wrong.
I don't know how long you've been dealing with your personal hell, but it takes a while to piece things together. I was so gung-ho about my feelings when I first realized three years ago what I'd been repressing, or simply ignorant of the significance of because the feelings had always been there, but now that I've become better at coping with them, I find myself with new questions.
In your blog you say you've got additional hair growth and an adam's apple. Have you examined yourself down below for intersex traits? Not that it's a very common condition, but it'd be at least something to rule out.