Coming out to Extended Family?

[Reese]

I have a really huge family, as my grandma was one of ten children, and many of her brothers and sisters had several kids, and they all had many kids.... it's a never ending family.

I know most people are concerned first about coming out to parents and immediate family, which makes sense.  However I don't want to show up to a family gathering looking completely different, that is when I start hormones. 

Should I just expect my mom to tell everyone?  I mean, I'm having my graduation party in two weeks if I should tell everyone then... but my parents hardly even know.  And my therapist wants me to wait 3 years to even consider hormones :/ (I'm finding a new therapist though, haha, I literally will not live for 3 more years like this.  it's hard enough as it is right now.)

Does anyone have experience with this?  I couldn't find a thread about coming out to extended family, and I didn't want to dig too deep and bump a thread from years ago.

[suzifrommd]

For the cousins of my generation, I sent email specifically coming out to them. I counted on them to tell their children and parents.

[Constance]

For extended family, I came out via Christmas cards. I went full time in September 2011 and that winter went to one of those photo studios in the mall and had cards made. Each card was accompanied by a personal letter I'd typed up to the relatives in question describing what was going on.

[Devlyn]

Reese, at the bottom left of the Wike front page are some sample letters. Clicking on the "and more" link brings you to the whole Family and Friends section. https://www.susans.org/wiki/Main_Page

Constance, love that idea!