a Man...

[monarch]

Speaking about BDSM, I have never been into SM and I dont see HRT changing that part . Masochism is like a total turn off for me. How convenient, but BDSM does not consist of spanking and getting spanked only .

P.S. Yesterday I saw a guy on the street and my first thought was "He is hot!" and the second thought "Ewww, whaaaat? Wtf did You just think???"

Oh yes, BDSM is far more than spanking.  The community has many diverse interests to be sure.  When I mentioned masochism, I mostly meant that a lot of the pain in my life is self inflected.  There was an element of BDSM there as well, but that is a long story, and for the most part not what I meant.

As to your last sentence, I laughed because I think I understand what you are trying to convey, but honestly, there is nothing wrong in finding men attractive.

[~RoadToTrista~]

I remember back when I started HRT, I thought to myself, "Hmmm, what IF I was with a guy in a romantic or sexual situation?". My stomach turned and I felt like I was literally going to be physically sick.

That pretty much sealed the deal for me.

That's how I feel when I think about being with a woman romantically. >.<

[Athena]

Oh, that was something else that changed for me...before recognizing I was trans, I didn't like the idea of any BDSM...once I started allowing myself to be me, I discovered that I do, in fact, enjoy a bit of paddling...

Sorry new to this site not sure how to get the quotes right

Oh great I might have my bondage fetish get even worse
Do you ever feel that you want to go up to the guy who first uttered the curse may you live in interesting times and kick him in the shin?

I haven't even begun to go to therapy yet but as for thinking about guys, the only way I can think of them sexually right now is if I am tied down and they take me as a woman. I wonder how this will turn out

As for porn I found a porn story which is the golden chalice of stories for my taste and any other porn story or pictures/movies just don't do it for me any more.

[Sammy]

I haven't even begun to go to therapy yet but as for thinking about guys, the only way I can think of them sexually right now is if I am tied down and they take me as a woman. I wonder how this will turn out

Rough and pretty much one-sided .

[Catalina]

I think for me, I have always liked men in my past, and I still like men now. My sexuality has never changed, and I am straighter than ever, lol.

There is nothing sexier than the scent of man-sweat, with a hairy-chested buff man shirtless and showing off his goods... mmmm YES~! <3



Like Gerard Butler... what a dreamboat!! 

I could never understand how anyone can be repulsed by oozing manhood! *bites lip sexfully*

[Sammy]

I prefer smart, witty and mischievous types to hairy-chesty

[Dreams2014]

I prefer smart, witty and mischievous types to hairy-chesty

I've been powering through House recently, so hell yes to this!

[kelly_aus]

I started my transition thinking that I was a straight woman.. I'd spent a large part of my life as a gay guy, it seemed logical to me that I preferred guys. I was wrong. I'm a lesbian, always have been. I can be physically attracted to a guy, but have no interest in taking it any further. I've also never loved a man - I have loved women.

I don't think HRT was the cause.. I think it was more self discovery.. I fell for a woman (who rejected me) and that caused some introspection.. Which led to the realisation that I'd never loved a man and just couldn't see it happening..

[Jane's Sweet Refrain]

I always enjoy this topic when it gets discussed, and a lot of the comments seem to see changes in sexuality as acknowledging attraction that was previously repressed. Relieved repression may be an accurate way of describing what happens to those who, like me, seem suddenly to find ourselves attracted to men after months on hrt. But I also wonder whether this explanation denies potential connections between prolonged administration of cross-sex hormones and attraction. We as transsexuals are essentially going through a new puberty. Admittedly I haven't read up on the subject, but I imagine that many cisgender girls have no measurable sexual attraction to boys before puberty. Then, the hormones are raised for a prolonged period of time and sexuality becomes, well, something. Solidified? Awakened? galvanized? I'm hesitant to name it. And this sexuality that gets realized (I like that word) at puberty need not be hetero, of course. We can then perhaps see why giving testosterone to a gay man won't make him a straight one. He never was a straight man and why giving him estrogen over a long period of time might or might not make him a lesbian.

Again, maybe I was in denial about my attractions to men, but I just can't get access to it in all my memories of youth and adulthood. 

[monarch]

Jane, I suspect that there is no one size fits all answer to the question of how transition affects sexuality.  The fact is we still no very little about how these things work, so the whole process is truly a mystery.  There are people who are not trans whose sexuality seems to fluctuate in one direction or the other.  These people can be just as surprised by a change in their sexuality as a trans person on hormones, who experiences a similar shift in their attraction.  Is the answer hormones, society, a growing self awareness, finding the right person, or something else?  I would point out that none of these things happen in a vacuum, but instead they all interact with each other and influence our lives.

[Beth Andrea]

Jane, I suspect that there is no one size fits all answer to the question of how transition affects sexuality.  The fact is we still no very little about how these things work, so the whole process is truly a mystery.  There are people who are not trans whose sexuality seems to fluctuate in one direction or the other.  These people can be just as surprised by a change in their sexuality as a trans person on hormones, who experiences a similar shift in their attraction.  Is the answer hormones, society, a growing self awareness, finding the right person, or something else?  I would point out that none of these things happen in a vacuum, but instead they all interact with each other and influence our lives.

I've also come to love my bed posts...

How the mind interprets the body's sensations  is also a factor...as a guy, a bed post wasn't anything special...

[monarch]

Ack!  *know

The ways in which spell check fails me.

Beth, bed posts, eh?  Please exposit, and spare no detail.  Nevermind, perhaps details are not board appropriate.  Now every time I see a bed post I will think of you.  Well in the abstract at least, I am clearly lacking some imagination here. 

[Jane's Sweet Refrain]

Jane, I suspect that there is no one size fits all answer to the question of how transition affects sexuality.  The fact is we still no very little about how these things work, so the whole process is truly a mystery.  There are people who are not trans whose sexuality seems to fluctuate in one direction or the other.  These people can be just as surprised by a change in their sexuality as a trans person on hormones, who experiences a similar shift in their attraction.  Is the answer hormones, society, a growing self awareness, finding the right person, or something else?  I would point out that none of these things happen in a vacuum, but instead they all interact with each other and influence our lives.

I just wanted to point out that I would totally have sex in a vacuum, but I'm sure it would suck. I agree that sexuality is fluid, at least to a relative degree, and is constantly in the process of or subject to changing. And even if the direction or object of my attraction had not changed on hormones, I would still acknowledge that the way I experience sexuality has changed considerably, namely its location, but also its quality and duration. To be a sexual being as a woman feels much different from how it felt when I had a more typical male hormonal/social makeup. Enjoyed your response.

Jane

[Beth Andrea]

Ack!  *know

The ways in which spell check fails me.

Beth, bed posts, eh?  Please exposit, and spare no detail.  Nevermind, perhaps details are not board appropriate.  Now every time I see a bed post I will think of you.  Well in the abstract at least, I am clearly lacking some imagination here. 

Bend over a little, and lean backwards onto the big round knob on top of the waist - high bedpost...almost guarantee you'll have found a new "friend."

[ZoeM]

Bend over a little, and lean backwards onto the big round knob on top of the waist - high bedpost...almost guarantee you'll have found a new "friend."

O.o

*doesn't even want to think about it*
*Also not touching your bedposts. Ever.*

[Dreams2014]

O.o

*doesn't even want to think about it*
*Also not touching your bedposts. Ever.*

To be honest a bedpost just sounds flat out painful!

[Beth Andrea]

To be honest a bedpost just sounds flat out painful!

Gawd...does everything have to involve penetration?

How about just some rubbing and pressing?



I ain't sayin' no mo'...

[monarch]

I'm guessing slivers are an occupational hazard.   

[monarch]

I just wanted to point out that I would totally have sex in a vacuum, but I'm sure it would suck. I agree that sexuality is fluid, at least to a relative degree, and is constantly in the process of or subject to changing. And even if the direction or object of my attraction had not changed on hormones, I would still acknowledge that the way I experience sexuality has changed considerably, namely its location, but also its quality and duration. To be a sexual being as a woman feels much different from how it felt when I had a more typical male hormonal/social makeup. Enjoyed your response.

Jane

Just remember, in a vacuum, no one can hear you scream, or wait is that space?  Yes, I too experienced a change in how my body reacted sexually.  The feeling is very different from the male experience both biologically and socially.  For me at least, I prefer the way people interact with me romantically as a woman than as a man.  I definitely preferred how my body reacted sexually during my transition.  The weird thing these days is my complete lack of sexual interest.  I fluctuate between disappointment, indifference, and a sense of liberation.  I am unsure what to attribute for the loss of my sex drive, and I am reluctant to say it's the hormones because I just do not know.

[suzifrommd]

The weird thing these days is my complete lack of sexual interest. 

Well I don't have a lot of libido, but my sexual interest is strong. I.e. don't feel like I need to get myself "off" but really do want to share sexual experiences with another human being.

My problem is that I have no idea what in the world to DO with my pre-op machinery.