Looking at my body hair and finding it disgusts me.

[Dreams2014]

It's really crazy how things escalate.

I only recently came out to myself. When I did, I thought to myself that I wouldn't let it become a big deal, that I'd keep it locked safe in my head until I can deal with it. Now I'm finding myself thinking about all sorts of things. It's like coming out to myself lead to one giant epiphany.

But anyway to the point at hand, I find myself looking at my arm hair and finding it disgusting to look at, making me annoyed at my male physique. I know the solution is "Well, shave it off". But I live with my parents. They already deal with my OCD and health anxiety, and I don't really plan on making a transition until I've put a few hundred miles between us.

If anything I just find these experiences to be quite curious. I've gone from being ignorant about what my feelings meant, to accepting they exist, to now feeling increasingly intense dysphoria and resentments about my body.

I wonder what's next? I said I'd never cross dress, however give me an apartment of my own and absolute privacy, I think I probably would.

[Beth Andrea]

[ wicked witch voice]These things take time...they must be done deh-licately....[ /voice]

I remember being creeped out by body hair, too. The wife was ok with waxing the legs and chest, because no one saw that...but after I did my arms, she was worried that people would notice.

They didn't.

Good luck with your transition!

[Sephirah]

It's hard to put the water back in the reservoir once the dam has broken. All you can really do is ride the flow and hope there aren't too many rocky patches.

[Dreams2014]

[ wicked witch voice]These things take time...they must be done deh-licately....[ /voice]

I remember being creeped out by body hair, too. The wife was ok with waxing the legs and chest, because no one saw that...but after I did my arms, she was worried that people would notice.

They didn't.

Good luck with your transition!

Thanks!

I know there are a lot of brave people who just do what they want. But I like to live below the radar. I don't want to attract attention.

Hopefully I can start my transition within the next two years when I'm finally living independently.

[Amelia Pond]

Dreams,

I have to admit, the worst physical dysphoria that I've had was my body hair, blech. 

Once I shaved it all off, I've felt so much better. I understand living with your parents keeps you from wanting to do things that will make you feel better but cis guys sometimes shave off their body hair for different reasons too. Could you try shaving your arms and see if your parent will notice? Are your arms like werewolf (i.e. Robin Williams) hairy? You could always just say you wanted to try a cleaner look and leave it at that.

Do whatever makes you the most comfortable but from my experience, getting rid of that body hair makes a HUGE difference.


Amy

[Dreams2014]

Dreams,

I have to admit, the worst physical dysphoria that I've had was my body hair, blech. 

Once I shaved it all off, I've felt so much better. I understand living with your parents keeps you from wanting to do things that will make you feel better but cis guys sometimes shave off their body hair for different reasons too. Could you try shaving your arms and see if your parent will notice? Are your arms like werewolf (i.e. Robin Williams) hairy? You could always just say you wanted to try a cleaner look and leave it at that.

Do whatever makes you the most comfortable but from my experience, getting rid of that body hair makes a HUGE difference.



Amy

I'll definitely consider it as an option. Although I think we all know it will never be enough. I just need to be in an environment where I can start a transition really.

[how-audrey]

I had the same worries about shaving my body hair. I didn't want someone to notice and question me about or make fun of me in some way. I ended up doing it anyway, and the only time anyone noticed was when I cut myself and had blood running down my leg. There's plenty of cis males that shave or have less noticeable leg hair. You could also run over your hair with a hair clipper that has a guard, so you can take off most of it, but still sort of have some hair. I did that before I took the plunge and shaved everything.

[Renee]

Is there a way you could shave and if its noticed, just pass it off as having to do with your ocd?  Not the most elegant solution, but a solution nonetheless.

[Dreams2014]

I had the same worries about shaving my body hair. I didn't want someone to notice and question me about or make fun of me in some way. I ended up doing it anyway, and the only time anyone noticed was when I cut myself and had blood running down my leg. There's plenty of cis males that shave or have less noticeable leg hair. You could also run over your hair with a hair clipper that has a guard, so you can take off most of it, but still sort of have some hair. I did that before I took the plunge and shaved everything.

Hmm. I think I can cope with it until I transition. I'm patient. I just found my growing disgust to be interesting. I'm wondering what's next.

[Beth Andrea]

Hmm. I think I can cope with it until I transition. I'm patient. I just found my growing disgust to be interesting. I'm wondering what's next.

When you realize you've already gone thru puberty, and your shoulders are getting W I D E R. And your hips haven't changed.

[Dreams2014]

When you realize you've already gone thru puberty, and your shoulders are getting W I D E R. And your hips haven't changed.

I'm 23. So I have been through puberty. Fortunately due to my genetics I am slim, so my shoulders aren't broad and I'm skinny. I'm hoping that proves to be a good template.

[DrBobbi]

23 is an amazing time to transition. Wait to long and it gets more difficult to transition. Life gets in the way. Out yourself and move forward. I was outed nationally and it was liberating.

[Dreams2014]

23 is an amazing time to transition. Wait to long and it gets more difficult to transition. Life gets in the way. Out yourself and move forward. I was outed nationally and it was liberating.

What do you mean you were outed nationally, you mean you were in the news?

[Cindy]

This might sound silly, but people are not very observant. Shaving your body hair off isn't a big deal.

Lots of male athletes and entertainers, remove body hair.

Have you seen a hairy wrestler on WWE?

[JennX]

So did I... Which is why I had all of my body and most of my facial hair removed by laser & electrolysis before I even started HRT. I couldn't stand to look at it. 

[JennX]

Lots of male athletes and entertainers, remove body hair.

Have you seen a hairy wrestler on WWE?

This is very true. I thought the same thing the other day. They must have an inhouse laser tech or two, that they send all the wrestlers to. They are all pretty much totally smooth and hair free... Which is how I prefer my guys anyway.

[Dreams2014]

So did I... Which is why I had all of my body and most of my facial hair removed by laser & electrolysis before I even started HRT. I couldn't stand to look at it.

Wouldn't the HRT more or less remove the hair problem?

[SciNerdGirl]

I'm totally in the closet, and I shave my arms.  Nobody notices, or if they do they don't care.  The only person who even noticed was my wife, and she thinks it's a little weird, but doesn't really care.

The truth is, it's your body, and you can basically do what you want with it.

J.

[A]

Nowadays a guy taking care of his body hair is no big deal. Actually I think most girls my age would either not mind or even prefer a guy who keeps his body hair under control. Given this, if your parents make a big deal of you taking care of your body hair, tell them they're outdated.

[kariann330]

Hun i have shaved every inch of my body from the neck down religiously and have since i was a kid. Yes my mother gave me the usual "your a boy your supposed to have hair" line but over time she backed off. I also only once had a girl say that it was kinda gay but over time she started loving it and got over it. Fast forward a number of years and now at 29 i still shave and no one cares or notices.

Trust me hun i suffer from OCD too so i know that occasionally body hair makes you twitch but just keep swimming until you can make it.