Who here was accepted by parents as gay but rejected as trans?

[Evolving Beauty]

My dad and mom were very accepting when I was in male mode and they thought I was gay when in my head I always knew I was trans. WEIRDLY my dad even accepted me when I was cross-dressing and even use to drop me at night clubs dressed as a girl and my mum use to come film me in college for events when I dress in female to dance etc...

But all turned sour when I started wanting to go 'official'. My dad said I can't continue live in the house like this as we're from an upper class family and he has a reputation to conserve. It'll be an embarassment to the neighbourhood, his friends and colleagues who come at home and worse when we go to familial meeting with my grand parents, cousins, uncles etc...he's said that's too much and I AM ABUSING OF HIS TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE. He said those things should be done only outside the house in night clubs etc but not to parade in public places where I can be seen a big daylight.

I had to breakaway from them and do my own life, struggle alone in prostitution cos I was also fired brutally from my prestigeous and well-paying job.

I hear many who are completely rejected whether as Gay/Bi/Trans but I never heard someone who was accepted as Gay(in reality not gay but untranstioned trans) but rejected as full-time Trans...is there anyone like me here?

[Ltl89]

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation.  I hope you are safe and doing okay.

My mom always asks why I can't just be gay.  She would gladly accept me being into guys,  but altering my body is another thing.  They are completely different things,  so that always confuses me.  Still that is how most see it.

[Natkat]

I  experience that and one of my friend also experience it.

My famely is very acceting for gay or bisexuals, in fact I never had to come out to them cause there wasn't a "comming out" phrase where I would be insecure if they would accept me or not for my sexualety. but it was hard for them being suportive of me being trans, even now they still mispronouce me alot of times and so.

->-bleeped-<- is complitely diffrent in Scandinavia than being gay.
taking it in perspective denmark is one of the best countrys in the world to be gay, but on the list of 10 of the worst in Europa to be trans.
so I belive alot of people from here feel the same that it was very easy coming out being gay compared to be trans.

[pebbles]

My mum was an odd one, On the face of it she seems pretty progressive in her politics She's an atheist, and if you ask her she thinks discrimination against homosexuals is stupid "How dose there sexuality stop them begin good people? it's just the way they are born, It can't be helped... of course they should be allowed to get married... " but it's not that simple of course. If you pick beneath the surface she's a bigot.

She's what I call a NIMBY (Not in my backyard) homophobe Gays are fine when it's Phil the fabulous Barman, or Julie her slightly butch Assistant intern. But her Children begin LGBT?... Oh hell no.
"I know my kids aren't gay I'm a good mother, I mean I would be able to tell."

Oh and she's only okay with Lesbians and Gays, When both me and my sister mentioned that we are Bisexual and have had relationships with women we were greeted with
"There's No such thing. 'Bisexuals' Just don't know what they want if you had a choice to like men or women why would anyone CHOOSE to be gay?"

And when it comes to mentioning that her Son is infact her Daughter... ooh boy, "I raised 1 Son and 1 Daughter, and I know my son he wasn't gay he wasn't feminine he was a boy and raised as a boy Your just the monster that took my son away, come back when you stop wanting to be a freak." /ignored for a year.

[AMDERS]

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation.  I hope you are safe and doing okay.

My mom always asks why I can't just be gay.  She would gladly accept me being into guys,  but altering my body is another thing.  They are completely different things,  so that always confuses me.  Still that is how most see it.

my parents were and still are exactly the same way. They figured I had to be into men and was just ashamed and therefore wanted to change genders. That couldn't be further from the truth. I am not into men and never was. That has nothing to do with my gender identity. Anyways, they said they would be okay with me being gay just not with the fact that I am changing genders. I feel that it has to do with them feeling like they are "losing" their son.

[Ltl89]

My mum was an odd one, On the face of it she seems pretty progressive in her politics She's an atheist, and if you ask her she thinks discrimination against homosexuals is stupid "How dose there sexuality stop them begin good people? it's just the way they are born, It can't be helped... of course they should be allowed to get married... " but it's not that simple of course. If you pick beneath the surface she's a bigot.

She's what I call a NIMBY (Not in my backyard) homophobe Gays are fine when it's Phil the fabulous Barman, or Julie her slightly butch Assistant intern. But her Children begin LGBT?... Oh hell no.
"I know my kids aren't gay I'm a good mother, I mean I would be able to tell."

Oh and she's only okay with Lesbians and Gays, When both me and my sister mentioned that we are Bisexual and have had relationships with women we were greeted with
"There's No such thing. 'Bisexuals' Just don't know what they want if you had a choice to like men or women why would anyone CHOOSE to be gay?"

And when it comes to mentioning that her Son is infact her Daughter... ooh boy, "I raised 1 Son and 1 Daughter, and I know my son he wasn't gay he wasn't feminine he was a boy and raised as a boy Your just the monster that took my son away, come back when you stop wanting to be a freak." /ignored for a year.

I understand what you mean.  My mom is very accepting and doesn't have a problem with other peoples lifestyles, but it's different when it is coming from me.  She told me she is embarrassed about my situation and hates to think about what others will think.  I think that's the key.  People hate when they are forced into being associated with the lgbt community.  It's fine to be accepting of it until you are confronted with the fact that someone in your family is that way.  I think for a lot of people it comes down to societal acceptance and that's why they are more weary of accepting it from their own children.

[MadeleineG]

I consider my parents NIMBY liberals, too. I've listened to a lifetime of tolerant posturing promptly hedged by the pointed caveat that "we're lucky these issues don't affect our family".

When I came out to mom last month, she stated point-blank that she couldn't fathom trans apart from being an extension of cis-gay, which I've never been.

Maddy