Beyond not caring?

[Shannon1979]

Ok so i have reached a point where i just dont care what anyone thinks. i work in a shop and do get a few odd looks from customers. i dont do this in the shop as it would be inapropriate. but outside if people look at me a bit funny i simply look back and laugh at them. visibly making sure they see me doing it. And this actually seems to work very well most people seem to look very embarrassed with themselves for staring initially and very quickly stop doing it.

[mrs izzy]

Ok so i have reached a point where i just dont care what anyone thinks. i work in a shop and do get a few odd looks from customers. i dont do this in the shop as it would be inapropriate. but outside if people look at me a bit funny i simply look back and laugh at them. visibly making sure they see me doing it. And this actually seems to work very well most people seem to look very embarrassed with themselves for staring initially and very quickly stop doing it.

You have the same point  i have had since i went full time, I give not a rats $ss what anyone thinks. Even part time it did not happen maybe more then a few time and all i did was kinda pull at my cloths and make it seem i was looking for maybe something on my cloths they where looking at. I found most of the times i thought people might be watching was my own public anxiety. I found people in general just go about there lives with out batting a eye.

keep your head high and keep that point of i do not care and in short order you will not give any thoughts to what others do, you will be you and thats all good.
Izzy

[big kim]

I laugh back and say "You're laughing at me because I'm different,I'm laughing at you because you're a moron"I really don't give a rat's ass about these pathetic losers

[Cindy]

Mmmm

The Cindy way of dealing with morons is catching on

I said somewhere else.
I'm damn proud of being me, of getting through this, of facing life - and no one who hasn't been on this journey has any right to judge me.

And I don't care what they think!

Cindy

[Lesley_Roberta]

I walk down the street, and I seriously wish 'I' was the one that didn't care actually.

Shut the *&#! up Lesley, no they weren't looking, no they weren't laughing at you, no they wouldn't do that, no, no no and no. Get a damned grip woman.

I wish I seriously didn't care how I looked.

Some days I have really wished I could direct a very angry pissed off tirade at ME!!

I'd kick my ass, slap me around, say rotten things to myself and make me cry and tell me to get real, no one was thinking all of that crap.

I sure wish I could beat up that voice in my head.

I wish I could go get a skirt, one for my size, and just stop pretending I am going to be a skinny 16 year old any time soon.

Face it Lesley, you are not going to stop eating the damned chocolate bars, you are a fat broad, deal with it. Buy the skirt, shop at the plus sized store and be one of the girls wearing a skirt on a plus sized ass and get over it.

I'm never going to get anywhere till I stop listening to myself.

I sound insane don't I

I have an over weight cis girlfriend in town. I think I am going to say 'Dar, please take me out and help me buy some clothes for a girl my size'.

[Heather]

Shut the *&#! up Lesley, no they weren't looking, no they weren't laughing at you, no they wouldn't do that, no, no no and no. Get a damned grip woman.

Ask yourself this Lesley if they were looking or laughing at you is it really the end of the world? It's not really and most of that is in your head. You have to teach yourself humility I've been trying to get past the last of these fears by constantly putting myself into embarrassing situations. Sure people can and will laugh at you but most won't even bother to do that. Try to realize this is just a fear and if you want to move forward in life you must move past it. 

[StellaB]

Good on you. Don't you think it's liberating feeling?

I stopped caring some time ago but it's only very recently that I've broken down a few barriers and pushed myself when the social anxiety was kicking in. It was when my GP and a couple of others pulled me up for explaining and they suggested that I state rather than explain and I stop accepting responsibility for other people's issues.

Actually what I've found more recently is that I don't even have to say anything but just introduce myself by name. This discovery came when I went onto a building site near my home and got chatting to a group of bricklayers and labourers who didn't bat an eyelid.

In fact part of me feels a bit foolish when I think of the amount of time it's taken me to realize this.

[Ltl89]

Congrats!  That sounds like a good place to be.

[Pia Bianca]

i work in a shop and do get a few odd looks from customers.

Judging from your avatar picture I'd say they give you odd looks just because you're beautiful. But it's good to not care nevertheless as you'll be immune to bad talk.

Oh god, I wish I had that top. Looks great.