Welcome, BlueStar and bless you for sticking it out with your spouse.
Please look around and familiarize yourself with the Rules and with all there is to offer here, including the SO Forum and SO Chat room ,the wiki, links, and - of course - other members, including some pretty incredible SOs.
All you need do is to ask a question, and many here and in Chat will try to help to the best of their knowledge and ability.
Robyn