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Started by Yuki1994, August 01, 2013, 11:06:14 AM

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Yuki1994

Hi everyone, my name is yui and i'm younger. i don't really know if there's anyone around my age here... but i hope some people can relate to my story. it's a little long though, i guess i'll need to explain just a bit for my introduction.

It started years ago when i was around 4, at that time i was starting to feel a bit lonely, most kids at that age would probably call me a weirdo for acting too feminine. while most boys would play outside during they're free time, i would rather stay indoors and play dress up with my two older sisters. that continued until i was 7 when puberty started . i know some people wouldn't believe puberty would start that early. but for your record, my voice broke when i was 8.

After that, for 2 years i tried holding back my real self but it didn't work. during my first month in secondary school i started to avoid the everyone. i was really anti social at that time. this continued through the rest of the year.

Even now, i don't really have any friends.

I only wrote a bit about my life here since telling everyone my experience and feelings would probably take thousand of words.If anyone have anyone have any questions about me, feel free to ask me anything.



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Ms. OBrien CVT

Hi Yui, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 6861. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister.

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Janet  )O(

  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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Amelia Pond

Welcome Yui, I hope you find what you're looking for. :)

Don't be afraid to ask questions and talk to us either. ;)

Amy
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Jamie D

Yuki, welcome to the site.  We have another MtF member her who started puberty at about that age.  She has had a lovely transition.
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Yuki1994

Thank you everyone, i do have a question though. the truth is that i haven't told anyone in my family about this. so i'm not really sure if i should tell them about it soon or wait until a few years until i'm ready? .

I don't know if this is the right forum for asking questions though.
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Jamie D

It's okay to ask things in your introduction.

Perhaps the best thing to do with your family, or maybe with a school counselor, is to express that you are uncomfortable with your body or gender identity, and that you would like to speak with a therapist.

The sooner you focus in on the issues, the better off you will be.  A natal male puberty sometimes last until the early 20s.  Stopping the effects of male puberty will go a long way for you, in the event you decide to transition.
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Yuki1994

 i tried telling my parents last night but they thought i was joking. i even cried and told them that i was serious about this. they laughed and said that god made you as a male, you should act like one. i just stood there crying in disbelief of what they just said. aren't they a bit harsh...
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Jamie D

Ask your parents what they think God was thinking when he made C.A.I.S. women.  And what God was thinking when he put a feminine brain into your masculine body.

That should be an interesting discussion.

You should follow up with a school counselor, or perhaps a mental health service locally.
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Cindy

Hi Yuki,

Welcome.

Unfortunately people who are not gender dysmorphic often don't understand.

if you go to www.wpath.org

That is a site for people who deal with gender dysmorphic people and has guidelines you can give to your parents. In particular try getting them to read the Medical Necessity Statement.


And BTW you are not odd, you are not sick, you do not have a mental health condition. You are a perfectly normal young woman who needs help in allowing her to develop as she should.

Hugs

Cindy
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Susan

Welcome to Susan's Place Yui, we are so glad to have you here!
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Shana-chan

Quote from: Yuki1994 on August 01, 2013, 08:32:30 PM
i tried telling my parents last night but they thought i was joking. i even cried and told them that i was serious about this. they laughed and said that god made you as a male, you should act like one. i just stood there crying in disbelief of what they just said. aren't they a bit harsh...
Welcome and really, I truly am sorry that happened and that they said that. I know just how much that can hurt since I know where my Dad stands on this and 1 of my closest friends too and while I've yet to tell my Dad (I do know what he believes on this though) I told my closest friend and he said the same things. (Actually more than once and went into a conversation about it which did me more harm than good) I recently sent him a PM explaining how wrong he is and telling him he hurt me really bad while trying to tell him my beliefs on it as well as showing him what I think is proof for how wrong he is. (Now to wait for a response) Also, you are YOU. God made us who we are and there are TONS (That's an understatement since there's a LOT more than tons) of people who don't act like the gender their body is and there is ABSOLUTLY NOTHING wrong with that at all. Don't be someone you're not, be yourself! I'm sure that if you look around this place you'll find MANY people who you can relate to and that they can relate to you. It helps to talk about stuff that's bothering you and NEVER feel ashamed of who you are! It is my belief that it is our soul that is who we really are and not our body since imo the body is just a shell. So I hope you'll talk to people when you need/want too and hope to see you around. Btw, I'm sure you can make some friends here if you reach out and let them in. ;) Also don't be afraid to ask questions and talk. ;)
"Denial will get people no where."
"Don't look to the here & now but rather, to the unknown future & hope on that vs. the here & now."
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JillSter

Quote from: Yuki1994 on August 01, 2013, 08:32:30 PM
i tried telling my parents last night but they thought i was joking. i even cried and told them that i was serious about this. they laughed and said that god made you as a male, you should act like one. i just stood there crying in disbelief of what they just said. aren't they a bit harsh...

I'm sorry it went like that for you. :(

I assume from your description of yourself that you're pretty young. Parents can be pretty dismissive of their kids (even when they're adults! Trust me!) If you are young, then consider it this way: the cat's out of the bag and your parents will have to learn to accept you as you are. Just be yourself and let them know you. They say honesty is the best policy. It's scary to be so honest, but sometimes it's best to start with honesty. Then it's not so scary later.

Anyway, that's just my advice. Take it as you will. I wish you the best.

And welcome. :)
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