oh. Dad just died.

[MadeleineG]

I'm really sorry to learn about your loss. *supportive hug*

[Emmaline]

Thanks all.  I am doing good so far.

I am dreading the 'you are the man of the house now' comments but its a small wince.  My nephew is a good foot taller than me and knows I am trans... so I will just shoot him a grin.  He is technically the next male in line - but thats our lityle secret for now.   

Now get back out of this thread and natter about trans stuff... I am doing fine

Thanks again all!  Hugs.

[Cindy]

Hugs Emmaline,

I just saw this.

Nah you are the 'woman of the house' and your Dad loved you.

Hugs

Cindy

[Jamie D]

My deepest condolences to you and your family, Emmaline.

[Emmaline]

Thanks all

Its been tricky balancing greif and my gender dysphoria.  I am away for a week from my girly stuff which is a vent.  I sneak quick trips here for my trans-fix. ( Lol.  I guess I am now transfixed   )

I am dreading having to man mode for the service.  Part of me wants to announce to everyone that I am trans and proudly his daughter, but its his day... not mine.  I want people to remember the occasion for the right reasons.

I have decided to get the celebrant to introduce me as his 'youngest child', not son- so I dont get that little stab of dysphoria right before I read the eulogy.

I am not looking forward to the small talk after- there will be a lot of gender references- like 'man of the house', proud of his son etc.   Winces and smiles.  Even death is laced with gender our culture.

[Just Shelly]

I'm so sorry to hear this

It's nice to hear you have people around for support

....and please cry if you need too...don't hold it in. 

[SarahLynn]

So sorry for your loss. 

[mikaelmackison]

I, too, am sorry for your loss.