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How do you handle this?

Started by suzifrommd, August 05, 2013, 10:58:07 AM

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suzifrommd

I saw an acquaintance in the shopping mall last week, someone who I'm fond of and wanted to greet. I realized that he has no idea I transitioned and he looked straight at me not recognizing me as I walked by.

I wanted to speak to him. But what do I say?
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mrs izzy

Quote from: suzifrommd on August 05, 2013, 10:58:07 AM
I saw an acquaintance in the shopping mall last week, someone who I'm fond of and wanted to greet. I realized that he has no idea I transitioned and he looked straight at me not recognizing me as I walked by.

I wanted to speak to him. But what do I say?

I have had that happen many times over the years. I find it funny when some of my not so supported friends have no clue i was standing next to them in a check out line even when they look at me.
Life is full of un-expected events.

And if it is someone you wish to talk to just say hi and see where it goes. I would hold off on the transitioned unless needed.
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Yuki-jker86

that is tricky!
I don't know how I'd approach it.
I think I'd say their name.
They would know that you know them and they'd try and figure it out.
It might be fun.

I like to play guessing games though anyway. I always enjoy the 'guess my age' game. they always guess 5-10 years too young.

Amy The Bookworm

Quote from: suzifrommd on August 05, 2013, 10:58:07 AM
I wanted to speak to him. But what do I say?

Introduce yourself as you are now and see if he's interested in getting to know you next time you see him.
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Lesley_Roberta

Either take the above advice, or, if you are really mischievous, you could say your old self's younger sister :)
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Brooke777

When I first transitioned, I didn't say anything. Now, I just walk up and start talking with them. As you get more comfortable with yourself, things like this will be no big deal,
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Rachel84

Something like that happened to me recently, only it was the mother of one of my friends.  I haven't seen my friend for awhile, and he doesn't know I transitioned yet, but we use to be close.  His mother is a very sweet lady.  She didn't recognize me (or it didn't click who I was), even though she was behind me in line at a store and asked me a question.  I hadn't seen her for well over a year, and if she would've recognized me or called me out I would've explained what was going on with me.  But she didn't say anything, so I didn't tell her who I was.  I felt a little bad about it, but I thought it would be better talking to my friend first before having his mother go and tell him all about me.
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