My highest of mountains would seem to be....

[Lesley_Roberta]

Currently I am experiencing precisely what a smoker would feel, what an alcoholic would feel, what any person with an addiction would feel.

In concert with some very involved discussions with the wife, who is in agreement (because it sure wouldn't work with it), I have put the brakes on my sex life, or more accurately, our sex life ie 'doing it' in any fashion.

She does not require it, and as a result of how our past has had so much of it, there is no danger she will have suffered any lacking of it.

Me, I want to gain control of it. I want to be able to say no to it, and actually be listened to by it.

I want to have some measure of self control over it long before HRT happens. I want to know, I was able to quit of my own choice, not because HRT did something to make it no longer functional, assuming it even can or would (a subject I am no expert in here eh).

But, I am definitely experiencing difficulties. I don't think I have ever put a more severe challenge to myself in my life.

My goal is to be able to experience day after day and not need to 'get off' and then week after week, until it becomes months, and no real need to care about it at all. I feels like being asked to voluntarily not breath.

I am open to any comments that make this process easier.

[Nero]

My goal is to be able to experience day after day and not need to 'get off' and then week after week, until it becomes months, and no real need to care about it at all. I feels like being asked to voluntarily not breath.

Why is this necessary to that extent of being months and months?

I know how you feel since I'm trying to do this myself, just not to need to get off so much. But months and months is probably a little extreme unless it just happens naturally.
I've found that I naturally go through periods where I don't think about it and others where it's a nuisance - both before and after T.
If you focus too much on it and trying to resist it, it will backfire. Sometimes working out can help cause it relieves some of the stress you're trying to relieve through orgasm.

[Lesley_Roberta]

'Why is this necessary to that extent of being months and months?"

Well if the wife were to ask for it, fine, but, I have been living a life where going 2 days without getting it is odd, and this has been going on for several years!!!.

I think it has more or less worn out it's welcome.

I see ads for those 'little pills' and I suppose I can feel sorry for a person that can NOT do it, but me, I seek a pill to turn it off actually.

I'm 51 and thanks to disability, pretty much live the life of someone 71 and to be honest, I would like to be sufficiently old the thing just plain fails to function. Not sure if that actually happens though.

I want my day dominated by something else.

[Yuki-jker86]

There are herbal remedies we can try.

I decided to try black cohosh. this doesn't suppress T, but it is an oestrogen supplement.
I haven't been taking them long enough to see how they work so can't comment.
I intend to ask the clerk in the herbal shop about what they have that acts as a T suppressant.