what does arousal feel like (detail please)??

[Jenna Marie]

Indeed, plenty of cis women need some lube, too. It's only in porn or a few very very fortunate women that there's gallons of natural wetness dripping everywhere.

I'm fairly sure (based on past girlfriends) that what I produce is within the range of cis normal, if on the low end of it. Plus, at the risk of being even more indelicate, my experience with them was that it was partly also an "on demand" system - that penetration and thrusting triggered more as the body reacted to necessity. I haven't actually *tried* penetrative sex yet, so who knows, maybe I'm capable of more if prompted? (Not while dilating, that's for sure, but there is no less erotic activity than THAT.)

[Jasriella]

Being completely pre everything I have noticed that when I have penetrative sex, I did it once without lube and yeah the initial entry was not pleasant, but even in the back door my body supplied lubrication to where it quickly wasn't painful.

[Kate G]

The first indications of arousal (for me) are feeling "hot and puffy" in the nether regions and the clit becoming harder and more noticeable. If it continues, I become wet. If the arousal is part of foreplay, I can become quite wet (noticeably so to the other person). The sensitivity of "everything between the lips" increases considerably and the desire to engage in intercourse becomes quite overwhelming! (NOT a good time for a partner to try to roll over and go to sleep - it AIN'T gonna happen! LOL!!!!)

The feeling of being penetrated by a man is unlike anything else and defies any attempt at description in words other than "pure heaven"!

I can relate to a lot of what Jane said here.  As to her description of being penetrated by a man... I wouldn't give that description myself necessarily.  I would say however that sex is much more psychological than it was before transition even in consideration that prior to transition, for a "male" (for me) sex was probably a lot more psychological than it was for normal, average healthy males.

I have had some pretty non-Heavenly penetration.  Sometimes it hurts, most of the time it doesn't produce an orgasm... but the act of being female in that moment can be pretty profound and psychologically rewarding for a woman who transitioned.  I usually enjoy sex.  The worst sex I ever had was with men who were accepting me as a woman instead of experiencing me as a woman.  Having sex with men who are experiencing me as a woman tends to have a reward component to it that goes beyond the experience it self.

Sex has entirely changed for me since transition.  It went from a physical act with a physical reward to being a million possible different things at any given moment which is to say that sex used to be like a solid but now it is more like a vapour and it tends to escape definition.

[Dena]

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[Virginia Hall]

Dilators might be ok. The clitoris is where some people find the action and perhaps all that's needed is some lube and some active daydreaming, the steamier the better. For some people the physical part consists of awakening the target area. I had SRS in the era when the labiaplasty could not be performed as part of the procedure and I waited to get that. After the labiaplasty, sensation increased from mildly pleasant to "fireworks," but not overnight.