Dreams

[Judge Yourself]

I don't know if a thread already exists for this but I thought I'd give it a try.

I was wondering myself if anyone still dreams in their birth gender (as in seeing themselves as such) and how long it took not to do so. I had my first one the night before last .

So it got me thinking about that and I thought I'd put the question to you guys...

[Gray Seraph]

     I'm no expert on the issue, but you probably won't ever stop dreaming about your birth gender, since it remains an aspect(active or not) of yourself. It's just your subconscious minds way of dealing with excess baggage, that would best be dealt with by the opposite gender(birth gender in this case).

     Even normal people have dreams as a member of the opposite sex(even if they don't remember) to fulfill certain subconscious needs(usually whatever you repress still needs an outlet or you would quickly become overwhelmed) they can't accomplish in their own gender.

     Unless your able to become 100% androgynous (the world makes that pretty difficult to attain) mentally, you still need to repress one side(no matter how small) of your personality in your daily life. People are probably Androgynous in most of their dreams, though it goes largely unnoticed.

     So I wouldn't worry too much about how you appear in your dreams. How you feel mentally in dreams is usually more important than how you look.

~Gray Seraph

[Julie Marie]

Honestly, I never thought I'd ever dream in anything BUT my birth gender.  When I had the occasional dream of being in my identified gender I woke up thrilled.  I dream more and more in the female but I've never dreamed completely as a female.  Maybe that will happen after GRS

Julie

[Robyn]

In many of my dreams, I don't even notice.  Most often I am female.  When I return to the Naval Academy in my dreams, I am sometimes male and sometimes female. 

Off topic, but I have a fairly recent foto taken on a cruise with some of my Academy classmates:  tuxedo, tux, dark suit, tux, tux, dark suit, black gown with spaghetti straps, tux, black suit, tux, tux...  I love it.

One classmate tried to relegate me to the line of wives.  Another said, "Hell, no; she's a classmate."  My husband stood with the wives.

Robyn

[Nero]

When I am dreaming about things to do with events past, I always look exactly the same as I did at that time. Always.

[seldom]

I really never had dreams in my birth sex.  I was either female, or some androgynous humanoid creature.  But more often then not female.   I have very lucid dreams as well. 

[Judge Yourself]

I more often than not have dreams about the past, when i was 15/16 and normally as a girl - but occasionally depending on the perspective i have had dreams when i was male, but not as myself and male - if you get me ....

[KarenLyn]

I only remember one dream where I was specifically in my birth sex.  That was over 30 years ago. I don't usually see myself in my dreams. I see things going on around me as I walk or fly around. Yes, I fly. Who doesn't?

Karen Lyn

[Pica Pica]

i always dream in first person. i tend to jump sex a lot when i dream depending on what the narrative of it is.

[Laura Eva B]

I'm always aware of my gender in dreams, through details like how I am dressed, how I speak, how people relate to me and what name they call me by.  My dream landscape tends to be filled with people I know .... and my dreams are really vivid, especially those early morning ones when you're on verge of being awake.

To my surprise very early into full time transition I became 100% female in my dreams.  Guess dreams are about aspects of your current life, fears and anxieties, a kind of mixed up re-hash of events still current in your mind.  So it figures that gender change in real life will be mirrored in the land of nod !

Laura x

[Doc]

I have almost always dreamed I am in my 'chosen'/'true' gender, all my life. Usually nothing else is different (barring the fact that it's a dream and there are werewolves and stuff), I just have a male body.

Occassionally I am female in my dreams. This tends to come with 'social nightmare' type dreams, like the one where I am invited to a family get-together that turns out to be an 'intervention' where all my family sit around and tell me what they think I'm doing wrong with my life.

One of my favourite dreams of recent years: I, a 30-something white male, am accidentally invited to a special event hosted by the government, which is strictly for black teenage girls. It becomes clear that the government means to destroy the population of black Americans by bombing us and killing all the young black women. They strafe us with fighter jets, shooting missles at the arena where we're all gathered. Mysteriously, I and hundreds of young black women are able to hide under a peice of plywood, and run into the woods, where were meet wild horses and befriend them. The black girls deem that I am an honorary black girl. I am pleased as anything and become a young black woman. We get on our friends the horses and assault a military base and take over, well. Everything. It was a total girl-power dream, and I loved it.

A couple of weeks ago I dreamed that I was lost in Dallas, Texas, and that nobody around could determine my sex. This placed me in horrible danger, so I had to hide in alleys and stuff, trying to get out of a huge huge city without being seen by any of the roving mobs of cisgendered yuppies who were out to catch me.

[Autumn]

I don't think it's quite that bad here yet, Doc :V

I only have one dream I remember specifically being female. I was young, probably 14-15, wearing one of those puffy pink jackets made of material that's supposed to not absorb water, but still be warm and soft on the inside. I was standing on what looked like a new york city porch. I was talking to people, but no one was there with me, and I was looking on myself, rather than being in first person. All I remember saying was "I don't care what mom wants, I'm not going to have kids."

So uh, very true it would seem. I don't even remember how old I was when I had that dream. I think i was either 13 or 16. I'm sure I've had other dreams where I was female, almost certain of it, but I can't recall any. A lot of my dreams involve women, but myself as my biological self.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

In my dreams I'm trans, and aware of it. Like recently I had a dream I was in male form at work and they took away my Mitch name tag and gave me some JLV tag..and I couldn't figure out why. But I'm always ftm trans in my dreams..never fully male.

Matt

[almost,angie]

 I remember dreaming about showing up at kindergarden with long pretty hair and I was a girl and everybody liked my now. ( It`s sad the torchure trans children grow up in)
  Now it`s always me I`m not sure about birth or target gender. I have had dreams of post SRS and it`s the most wonderful feeling till I wake up then depression and no more sleep.

[Dennis]

Before transition and becoming aware of being trans, I was almost always male in my dreams. Now I'm trans. I used to be female when I had insecurity dreams, like an exam I wasn't prepped for or can't find a bathroom. Now I'm me in those dreams as well.

It's kind of cool actually being me in my dreams.

Dennis

[Kate]

I usually dreamt in my birth gender most of my life, though there were times where I was a girl or some sort of hybrid. I was well aware that I "shouldn't" be a girl though, so it was more of a "hey! cool!" thing.

When I started really tackling this problem, I started dreaming almost exclusively in my target sex... without realizing it contradicted physical reality. It was just normal.

Lately though, I don't notice ANY sex. I'm just.... ME.

~Kate~

[ErickaM]

Kate, I know what you mean most of the time it's just me no matter what I might be doing in my dreams it is still just me.   I had dreams where I was getting my hair done or fishing with my wife.  It's always the same.

[mavieenrose]

Before I transitioned I don't remember usually having dreams where my sex was apparent, although I did occasionally have dreams where I clearly appeared as a girl (I always woke up with a smile on my face after these dreams!)

For the first 12 months afer SRS I had a recurring dream where my old male genitals were back and very long, just like a snake.  The awful thing was that the dreams were very vivid and when I woke up it always took me a few moments to realise it had just been a nightmare...

As a rule I don't have dreams now (14 yrs post-op) where my sex appears, but I do very occasionally have the odd dream where I have an enlarged clitoris that protrudes like a penis.   It doesn't happen very often, and in the dream I'm aware that I'm nonetheless female, but it tends to occur in periods where I'm being particularly reflective upon my life.

MVER XXX

[Maud]

I used to have dreams in the third person where i was aware of myself and where i was but i couldn't look at myself, occasionally i'd have dreams where i just was a girl but i never dreamt that I was a guy in the first person, these days about half of my dreams are androgynous and half are me as female as I am now, even if they're dreams about stuff that happened ages ago it's kind of like my mind backdated my gender.

Prior to transition or comming to terms I used to very occasionally have dreams where i was a girl and they used to freak the hell out of me, I was awestruck by how comfortable i was in myself in them.