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Started by Brielle, August 15, 2013, 01:20:55 AM

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Brielle

I guess I have gotten to comfortable out and about. I go out everyday presenting as female and honestly when running errands and such I usually don't bother with makeup. I no longer have beard shadow due to laser hair removal so that isn't a major concern. However in the last two days I have been mocked and stared at openly. One incident yesterday I saw the individual through the drive thru window point to her neck in the area of my Adam's apple.  When she saw me notice she tried to cover her actions which were unsuccessful and then an other girl brought me my order after I made eye contact with the girl she moved out of viewing range. I wanted to say something but decided to just let it go, It was nothing . Then today as I was ordering lunch I saw an employee glare at me and laugh and then he nodded at another employee to look my way, she did and smirked back at him. Then a person in front of me in line dropped a drink and they broke their stare. I just payed for my food and walked to a booth to eat. At first I thought maybe I was being paranoid these last few days as I have been having body issues recently. But on reflection it was obvious that I was being called out. I'm doing my best not to let it affect me but it does make me realize there are still obvious changes I need to make to my appearance if I want to avoid the awkward glances and stares.

SaveMeJeebus

That blows. I am sorry to hear people have been this way. Absolute shallow douchebags. I hope you have better day today! :)
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big kim

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Athena

"You seem to have issues dealing with me" then leave. If you have a better business bureau inform them of an employees mocking attitude and let them inform the business management. If the employees can flagrantly do this you might not get satisfaction with supervisors but a formal complaint will get attention. Also if it is a chain let the head office know what happened and let them know you filed a complaint with the better business bureau and also mention that you intend to file a complaint with the local LGBT group.

Also I would advise against going back there, I wouldn't feel comfortable eating anything they prepared.

By the way your profile picture looks pure woman to me :)
Formally known as White Rabbit
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Taka

time to start wearing a scarf so they can stare but never know the true answer? as a way to mock their prejudice...

but it's really stupid that a woman would have to hide any part of her body just to be treated right. really really stupid.

i'd only stare if i found someone attractive, but i'm sure many of those stares were simply respectless. i'd love to glare them down from their cissexist pedestal for you.
not that it really helps when all you want is to be recognized for who you are, but at least i could give them some of that horrible feeling back.
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