How they treat you?!

[jossef-ftm]

Nobody ever treat me as a human in my life especially  my family i'm always the person who everybody make fun of and nobody take him serious cause for them i have a mential issues (i think i'm a guy) they always ready to jeer me front of poeple and when family r together and we r eating or something they
always plotting on me and they try.. like the boys of the family r always talk front of the rest of the family that they will go and have fun and meet girls,just to make me angry and then tell me '' see if u were a real guy u would enjoy us'' or ''poor girl' and other things like when i act normal they r always like u r not a boy stop talking that way ,u will never be one,or stop this ->-bleeped-<-s or i will hit u, and when we r out they r like dont take him with u everybody will star at us,and womens of the family always proud of the guys in family and always have to tell me u r not like them u r not a guy,or oh i will send my son with u its too late and they may do something bad to u cause u r a girl!! they r always like that, they know that those words r really hurt and kill me inside but they keep say it,idk how to do or how to act especially that my parents r with them so i always find myslf alone between them,did that happen to u too i mean guys still not transition yet or did that happened to u b4 transition? i need advice,i dont know anyother place where people can understand me more than this place.

[Mosaic dude]

Oy, that sucks.  Unfortunately,  it is the culture you live in and/or your family's way of behaving.

[Athena]

Live for the day you can be out of there. Do what you can to succeed and let your success be your revenge.

[Mattfromengland]

Ah man that sucks. So sorry to hear that. I've been very lucky as although I've lived my life as a strong 'tom boy' and 'passing' without even trying to I've never had problems such as you've explained.

I'm assuming you are pre transition?  All I can say is, once you do transition I hope you show them all you are more of a man than any of them will ever be!!!!

You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. As you get older I'm sure you'll build a supportive circle of people around you and you will go from strength to strength.

Stay strong!!!!!!

[GnomeKid]

I know life is super rough for you right now, and that sucks.  My advice is that you're sort of fighting a loosing battle - for the moment.  You're only going to wear yourself out.  I'm not saying that you should give up on trying to be your true self.  Perhaps its time, however, to resolve to transition after leaving your family home.  In the mean time be as yourself as you can.  Where masculine clothes, bind, and pack if you can get your hands on the stuff.  Have good friends who see you and treat you as male if you can find them.   You've posted a good few of these upset ranting posts about your family no one taking you seriously.  Find a way out.  Most people have a good period of time where for one reason or another they are unable to transition or take the next step in transition. 

and man I hate to be a complete dick, but you've got to stop using internet spelling.  Especially for such a long paragraph.  Its really painful to read that many r's, u's, b4's, and other similar atrocities.  Is it really that touch to type out the word "you" or "are" [and ironically you're complaining about people not taking you seriously]?  Come on now. 

[Shantel]

Hello again Jossef,
        I realize that a lot of friends here don't fully understand the danger to your very life that you live under in the Islamic world. I am hoping that you will take the advice of some and make an effort to keep your desires low key for the time being for your own safety and make a plan to escape to a more westernized and accepting environment, you can do it! Wishing you the very best! ~Shan~

[Jack_M]

Jossef, it's just more examples of your need to escape really. No matter your loyalty to family or whatever, if you can't be you, it's not worth it. And yeah, keeping low key is important in your case.

We only get one very short life to live, there's no point spending your life fighting for acceptance or happiness. Some people just aren't going to change and you shouldn't have to be the poster boy for change by putting your life on the line. There are places that will accept you and welcome you with open arms. I hope you can find a way to get out.

[Salman67]

Hi jossef,

I know how that is with islamic culture. I am tomboy and i havent come out to anyone and yes most of the time not my family but my relatives make fun of me and say stuff like that...it really hurts but you have to stay strong and prove them wrong.
One thing that i did was i got myself involved in things that cheer me up. Like playing video games or playing a favourite musical instrument and most of the time when they come over i just dont hang out with them. I try to distance myself from negative people because they do not understand what you're going through. It is actually the lack of knowledge and information that transsexuality is such a sensitive topic within muslim communities and countries.
But be strong and don't let negative things get to you; always remember that god is the only one who will judge not these negative people that are around us.

Stay positive and strong