Dating Confusion

[Gina_Z]

I'm attracted to women. Some of them are attracted to me. We begin dating. She discovers that I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm in touch with my emotions. We talk a lot, like two close girlfriends. She informs me that I'm sensitive and that I have a girl-like mental state. The relationship usually ends unless I suppress my feminine side and exaggerate my masculine side. That's unnatural for me. There are rare women who are comfortable with my femininity, but I think it might be difficult to find someone who would love me after I go with GRS. Can you relate?

[musicofthenight]

Yeah.  I can relate a lot, except that I haven't been in the right place at the right time to actually get rejected. (Late bloomer plus poorly fitting social environment now that I'm finally interested in dating.  So it goes.)

The truth of the matter is all your romantic prospects are prospecting, themselves.  (I mean, just think about it.)  You will not make them happy by burying an important part of yourself.

At the very best, you might succeed in lying to yourself and to a wonderful woman, marrying her, having several kids... and then realizing decades later that nope, you're really not happy.  Then having to deal with your issues and hers and it looks like it hurts a lot more than it's worth.

Do I have the answer?  No.  Maybe I (a feminine male, btw) I need to find a bisexual woman - at the very least an open-minded one.  No matter what, I know it's something that needs to be talked about.

This amazing article gives me some confidence.
http://www.prettyfedup.com/pfu/lovesex/whydo->-bleeped-<-guysgetallthechicks.htm

Sure, the theory is right out of left field on the dark side of the moon, but there's some powerful stuff in there.  If you bring an open mind and read between the lines.

[alexclusive]

I can't relate exactly, but I do notice that when it comes to love I can be a little more on the feminine side, especially if I really fall for the person. Like for example, I love to cuddle, talk about anything, and become open with my feelings especially when I'm expressing them to her. And just in general, I'm not always a sex-crazed horny dog like typical bio-men are (well actually I beg to differ cause of being on T now). Haha, but anyway, I think you'll find that some girls like a balance. What's wrong with being open and sensitive to your girl? If you're in a relationship, that should be happening. But at the same time, you still wanna be a little assertive and have control over situations. You also gotta be able to protect her, you know? - I'm basing this off of girls I've been with, which I understand is kind of biased because these qualities are usually what I express when I'm with someone. And I'm not you, I'm me. So yeah.

I understand that it's unnatural for you to express your masculine side over your feminine side, and you shouldn't have to feel like you should. You gotta be what comes natural to you. I'm sure that you're gonna come across women who will appreciate your sensitivity. Not every girl is the same, just like how you and I aren't the same. Someone out there is going to appreciate you, your femininity, and everything else about you. I promise. Keep doing you and embrace it.

[Gina_Z]

Thank you. Another fear I have is that I find the perfect person and we fall in love and then I tell her my genitals will be going bye-bye, replaced by a vagina. Can you relate? Maybe I should place romance on hold until after the GRS. I'm not sure.