I am in a sort of similar position on the opposite end of the spectrum. For me it is being deeply entrenched into the male role, good income, a wife, and a career which is more like getting paid to play in an essentially male dominated field. After finally really taking on the trans beast after some 50 years of just doing this death dance with it, I know where joy lies. I also know the potential cost which I cannot bear right now.
So what's a girl to do? The single biggest life changer and copping mechanism I found was my TG group. In actuality it is more of a TS group, I think because of it's rural location only TS's that are actively transitioning of completed that journey are brave enough to seek out. I often wish we had a meeting every Saturday night rather than it's once-a-month.
Finding balance is difficult. For a few years I was able to life part-time as a woman with being male was for work and trips to Lowes. (Irrational fear, but only one of many I have) I moved from the boonies and back into the closed minded PC on the outside land of hate and fear called New Jersey. Though I am just 5 minutes from NYC I fear for my safety here more than in rural West Virginia where a well dressed, tall and thin woman really stands out. I still get to see the real me every day which helps a lot.
One of the good aspects of returning to NJ was ready access to professionals. To see a qualified gender therapist did not mean a 3 Hr or longer drive. I feel I got lucky with the first one I saw. She has helped me cope with all these life changes I am going through far better than the generalist, TG friendly one, I was seeing in MD.
Besides those recommendations, don't let fear rule your life. Plus do what you can to have the cash for future needs. Just don't keep putting off into the future your hopes, wishes and dreams. You don't want to turn into the miserable retch of a person I became by forsaking my dream.
