Frustrations on having to "be female"

[King Malachite]

It was driving me crazy then too.  The instructor is also a coach and gym teacher and very "macho" so I'm thinking that kind of explained it a bit more for his situation.

[CursedFireDean]

I don't remember if anyone has said this one yet or not but one of my least favourite things about having to be female is a simple word

ma'am

that word is awful. I don't know why I hate it so much more than lady, woman, girl, she, etc. but for some reason it's the biggest knife. There are plenty of ciswomen who hate this word too so why is it still used so much? Ugh.

[DriftingCrow]

I don't remember if anyone has said this one yet or not but one of my least favourite things about having to be female is a simple word

ma'am

that word is awful. I don't know why I hate it so much more than lady, woman, girl, she, etc. but for some reason it's the biggest knife. There are plenty of ciswomen who hate this word too so why is it still used so much? Ugh.

I used to work at a hotel and a casino/resort, we were expressly forbidden from calling women "ma'am". It's "miss" no matter the age (and boy, do the older ladies love it!). I dislike being called "ma'am" too, I used to always get called miss, but lately, I've been getting the "ma'am". I must be starting to look old or something.

[Darkie]

Does the fact that I'm pretty sure I have endomitriosis count?  Because I hate cramps with all my heart.  If it doesn't, I hate that I have to hide my boy clothes because girls don't wear those kinds of clothes...

[King Malachite]

that word is awful. I don't know why I hate it so much more than lady, woman, girl, she, etc. but for some reason it's the biggest knife. There are plenty of ciswomen who hate this word too so why is it still used so much? Ugh.

I am guilty of doing this constantly.  I call nearly every female mam.  I was always raised to call people mam and when I was in JROTC, I called my female superiors mam because I had to so it just stuck with me but I noticed that many times I do call people mam, they don't like it.  The negative reception sometimes baffles me, especially with me trying to be a "southern gentleman".

[DriftingCrow]

I am guilty of doing this constantly.  I call nearly every female mam.  I was always raised to call people mam and when I was in JROTC, I called my female superiors mam because I had to so it just stuck with me but I noticed that many times I do call people mam, they don't like it.  The negative reception sometimes baffles me, especially with me trying to be a "southern gentleman".

It's not so bad coming from someone with a nice southern drawl like I'd imagine you have Malachite. Everyone I know with a southern accent uses "ma'am" all the time, so we know it's not that you're calling us old ladies, it's a part of the southern culture or something. Now, getting called "ma'am" by a young kid with a Boston accent just isn't the same.