I don't have dysphoria...

[Jessie]

I finally looked up the whole definition and realized I don't have gender dysphoria. I'm actually perfectly content identifying as a boy until i get the money to transition. Is this normal?

[FreshGuy]

I also don't have dysphoria.

Some people transition fully without having dysphoria. It just depends on the individual. As I'm sure you're aware there is no "one size fits all" transsexual.

I'd say it is normal

[MaryXYX]

I agree no "one size fits all".  What I say now is I don't have dysphoria - I used to when I was living as a man, but it was cured when I went full time female.

[Murbella]

Yup, just because you don't meet the definition of gender dysphoria for not mean you don't have issues.  As with all things it is not black and white and you are more in the gray area.

I've never had any hatred for being born out raised as a boy.  More asking the lines of just me being unable to fit in as one and feel like I was being true to myself.  I also have recently come to understand how I would much rather interact with the world as a woman than as a man.  In many ways though this understanding has led me to feel some level of discontent at my current state as I see a second possibility that would fit me better.  I think that for me, the hassle and struggle that is transitioning would not be worth it if I was content being a man.

[Jessie]

Yup, just because you don't meet the definition of gender dysphoria for not mean you don't have issues.  As with all things it is not black and white and you are more in the gray area.

I've never had any hatred for being born out raised as a boy.  More asking the lines of just me being unable to fit in as one and feel like I was being true to myself.  I also have recently come to understand how I would much rather interact with the world as a woman than as a man.  In many ways though this understanding has led me to feel some level of discontent at my current state as I see a second possibility that would fit me better.  I think that for me, the hassle and struggle that is transitioning would not be worth it if I was content being a man.

Thanks, I see what you mean. I do really look forward to it, but I don't hate the wait. The struggle is worth it because I really really want to be a girl, but the thing I'm glad to hear is normal is that I don't feel like I need it yet.

[Kaelin]

With a term like "gender identity disorder," it seems like the blame is being placed on one's identity, as opposed to their body.  It's inconvenient that the brain isn't in harmony with the body, but the thing you fix/change is the body (even if just in how you dress it up and socialize) and not one's identity, right?

[MaryXYX]

With a term like "gender identity disorder," it seems like the blame is being placed on one's identity, as opposed to their body.  It's inconvenient that the brain isn't in harmony with the body, but the thing you fix/change is the body (even if just in how you dress it up and socialize) and not one's identity, right?

I've just been reading an article by a psychologist about "Gender Expression Denial Anxiety Disorder".  She was making the point that it's not our gender identity that's the problem, it's having to conceal it.  It really is time we moved on from the assumption that being born in the wrong body is a mental illness.

[Murbella]

Thanks, I see what you mean. I do really look forward to it, but I don't hate the wait. The struggle is worth it because I really really want to be a girl, but the thing I'm glad to hear is normal is that I don't feel like I need it yet.

Although there are some bad connotations involved in drawing the parallel I am about to go into, I think it an apt comparison. 

Think of GID as a sort of cancer of the psyche.  Once the switch is flipped, it will tend to grow until it starts to threaten your health.  Occasionally cancers go into remission, but the risk of flare ups is ever present.  In our case, we've diagnosed the symptoms early before they start to wreck havoc on our lives.  This allows for more careful planning on how to take on the issue, which in turn results in hopefully a stable and positive mental state throughout whatever changes need to happen.  Take that time to fully evaluate what you're ideal state is and plan the best path to get to where you want to be.

[Jessie]

Although there are some bad connotations involved in drawing the parallel I am about to go into, I think it an apt comparison. 

Think of GID as a sort of cancer of the psyche.  Once the switch is flipped, it will tend to grow until it starts to threaten your health.  Occasionally cancers go into remission, but the risk of flare ups is ever present.  In our case, we've diagnosed the symptoms early before they start to wreck havoc on our lives.  This allows for more careful planning on how to take on the issue, which in turn results in hopefully a stable and positive mental state throughout whatever changes need to happen.  Take that time to fully evaluate what you're ideal state is and plan the best path to get to where you want to be.

This is quite an interesting view.