Well, I'm not all that good at social things,(introvert + trans + anxiety makes for not a lot of practice over the course of my life)
but I finally feel the need to get this out there somewhere, and susan's looks like one of the better places to attempt this.
i guess the best place to start is, Hi! I'm Katie.
now things get harder, and i begin to lose track of what's relevant. so i guess here's some facts, and the stories behind them can come later.
I'm trans. so's my boyfriend - the weirdest bit about that one is that our relationship had its roots way before we even came out to ourselves.
although I've had on-and-off inklings my whole life, my first concrete look at trans issues that made me think about my gender identity was discovering the webcomic "unicorn jelly".
The author(Jennifer Reitz) has a hardcore SRS-evangelical stance that made me very, very confused for a long time because even today I'm leaning pretty heavily to a non-op life. Also, my
girlfriend at the time had some severe issues about basically almost everything and took every opportunity to tell me i was a boy. it was not a healthy relationship.
my now boyfriend, who was a close friend for a long time before that, convinced me to leave her and showed me what a healthy relationship is really like. that was six years ago.
but between my growing dislike for miss reitz's views and bad experiences from my ex, i just didn't think further about my gender and took up philosophical transhumanism to lessen my dysphoria.
after all, i'm not my body, I'm my mind. Last month, however, My boyfriend(whom i thought was my girlfriend) came out to me as a man, and in an instant, everything came rushing back,
and I myself felt more comfortable as a woman than ever before.
of course that also makes the dysphoria hit all that much harder since it's in the foreground, but all in all i think being out to ourselves and each other has been a huge net benefit.
it just makes me wish i could feel comfortable being out altogether.
now, the most interesting thing is that me and my boyfriend live with my parents, my little brother, and our five year old daughter. we're only out to each other, however.
wow, even the TL;DR version is kind if big. anyway, uh... hi!
