My wisdom teeth may out me.

[marikvulpina]

  knowing my parents, i don't know if they will ever "get" trans issues, but I do know
they will be supportive once I'm out - just for reference, my brother is gay and never
came out - not out of fear, but just because it just wasn't necessary. we had all at least suspected
for ages and just kind of welcomed his boyfriend with open arms when he started coming over.

  So really my hot having come out as trans is just undue anxiety, but it's hard to breach.
but an interesting opportunity has arisen - all four of my wisdom teeth need to come out.
they're not crooked, but they are packed too tight to have any room to pop normally, so
they need to be surgically removed and i need to be put under for it. and seeing as they
just have you bring someone to drive you home as soon as you wake up, but are still basically
stoned off your rear, there's not gonna be a whole lot of inhibition there.

  I may end up coming out to my mom whether i intend to or not, really. but i think it would
be a good thing over all. I don't know if she'd take me seriously while i was loopy, but once
it was said it might be easier to reiterate sober.

oh well. just eight more days to fret about it, i suppose.

[Aina]

Honestly, I've tried something "similar" to this over the last few weeks.

I am a very light weight when it comes to alcoholic drinks, one beer, one drink normally does it and I don't drink much at all. A few times over the weekend I've attempt to loosen my lips by drinking a stronger drink. Even when I am feeling rather tipsy I can't seem to get the words out. So I am not sure how much you will spill if you don't want to spill it. Because I know I want to spill the beans but even when I am tipsy I can't seem to muster it!

(Please note I don't get drunk and normally only 1 or 2 drinks and really only drink maybe twice a month)

The question is, I guess do you want to come out?

[marikvulpina]

yeah, the thing is I really do. but anxiety has always struck my tongue before anything else - it feels like my throat closes up if i try to talk when I'm uncomfortable; even more so if it's something i feel I *have* to say.

I have no idea of the immediate reactions, but... my parents are basically hippies. I think about the only news that would have a real negative impact on our relationship long term is if I suddenly lost my mind and decided that Hitler had the right idea about the whole genocide thing.

I don't have any fear of the results, it's more just a fear of the interaction itself. anxiety about the anxiety to come, really. it kind of sucks.

[Danielle Emmalee]

I think a lot of people probably share that fear, the fear of the conversation rather than the fear of what will come of it, I know it is that way for me.  I'll be fine if someone doesn't accept me, there's plenty of good people that will in the world I'd rather have them in my life.  But I kind of wish it could just be instantaneously known and be over with it than to go through the motions.

[Aina]

I think a lot of people probably share that fear, the fear of the conversation rather than the fear of what will come of it, I know it is that way for me.  I'll be fine if someone doesn't accept me, there's plenty of good people that will in the world I'd rather have them in my life.  But I kind of wish it could just be instantaneously known and be over with it than to go through the motions.

I feel you there, I wish I could be spontaneous like I am online. In games I am almost a different person, I careless with what people think of me. But the same goes with being around friends I am a different person with them, I am a different person with my family, people at school at work ect ect and I feel my only true self is the one I have "pretended" to be online away from everyone I know in real life.



But hey Marik - maybe it will work out for you let you loosen up a bit and forget the anxiety, and tell them. But don't feel like your alone I am in the same boat, I want to tell my family, I know I need to tell them, and I need to tell them for my sake as well.

All I can do is wish you good luck and hope for strength for you to tell them!

[marikvulpina]

forgive me if this comes out a little ranty, but...

  i just came out to my parents. I noticed it was friday the 13th, and being totally spiteful about silly superstition, I've always made sure to take big risks of fridays that fall on the 13th day of a month, and try to have a really great day. so between me being contrary as all get out, and the fact that impatience has finally overwhelmed anxiety, my boyfriend help me break the news to my parents.(although he isn't ready to come out so i completely avoided him in the discussion, he's totally supportive of me wanting to be out, he's awesome~)

  my mother's initial reaction was "... okay.", with that kind of "this is weird but i love you anyway" smile. then my dad went into the questions that would probably be uncomfortable for most people, but he's always been a blunt man and I've always been a blunt girl so i had no problem with them.

  they made sure to reassure me that while it might take a few days to digest and get used to new nouns and pronouns, this is totally cool and i am totally not homeless now and I am their daughter, Katie. my dad was a little weird with the name until i explained it was him that gave it to me. a dim memory of childhood involving finding some katydids and him possibly making stuff up completely for the sake of a joke: "you know, if you'd have been born a girl we would have named you katherine, so if you did something we could joke, 'who took the last cookie? Katie did!'" it... kind of stuck with me and i really like that name.

  i knew that they would be cool about it, but this level of nonchalance and cool about it was just... staggeringly awesome of them. i could not have expected it, although maybe i should have, at least from my dad. he's had training as a social worker, so dealing with trans people might have been part of his training...

my hands are still shaking a little from the effort of such a big social encounter, but.. that was amazing. my family is even cooler than i thought!

[Aina]

Way to go Katie! you have more courage then I do. I am glad hear they are ok with it, good luck on your journey!