Gee - reading these threads always makes me feel weirdly emotional and somewhat excited - this is what always gets me - such feelings mean something usually and this is why I said that it "nested in me head"
- Thanks for your words, Jenny and Sarah.
Quote from: SarahR on November 06, 2013, 06:21:20 PM
I actually do think it's bad to talk yourself out of it though, if it's really something you want. You shouldn't ever try to talk yourself out of anything, instead you should always strive to simply weigh the pros and cons and decide based on that which direction you prefer...this goes for anything in your life, not just whether to get VFS. However, if you've already decided that the pros outweigh the cons yet are still trying to talk yourself out of it for some reason then that doesn't sound healthy.
Well - what I want is to live without worrying about my voice and have a good voice. Thats what I want. I dont want surgery, it is more a thing that may be needed to get what I want. And the trick now is to find out if it is needed or not, if I can manage without or if I would be much happier with surgery. That has to match up with the risks and downsides involved in doing it. The pros and cons - well yes, I am collecting them, I try to collect them, though there is little to go on except you folks here
and some of the less than good reports from my home country. I will try and meet someone who did the Y suture probably in Berlin 10 years ago and see what she says (and how
). Its not Yeson and its 10 years ago. I remember she sounded quite a bit too high pitched right after the procedure though, I guess they did a bit too much of suturing or maybe she got several procedures done at the same time (plus she smoked (!) in the weeks after VFS :shock: ) . Anyways - pros and cons. I try to find them with the limited reports I get. In the end like all such decisions it is one that will be made from the heart and intuition with me. i know this - I can read all the pros and cons and try to make an informed decision but if my heart comes into play, some of that is just ignored
- this is what is worrying me a bit. When I read this here and hear it - my heart goes "I want this; Get it; Now;"
- and my mind tries to say "we have to look at the pros and cons and if there are too many cons we have to decline it" - and then my heart says "I dont care, I want it; Screw the Cons". LOL - often my heart wins in these fights. Especially now so long post transition
- Often it is right, the intuition but sometimes it is dead wrong, so I dont want to be "mindless" about it.
Re the cash - I was also thinking that maybe taking traveller checks and convert them right before payment would be an option that is safer? But it costs a large fee I think, right? But be safe - I guess many people know that there are Westerners with very big pockets walking around in that district with all the plastic surgeons and such...
Since I just read another date is due for Rachel in just 3 months (yay - more examples to listen to
- hopefully, Rachel?) - how long does it take from calling them first to actually going there - whats the waiting list. Do you need to plan a year in advance ?
In the end, like Jenny said, unless you actually try to get face-to-face interactions and testimonials from those who have had it done then all you have to go on is what you can find here and around the internet. That's really all we ever have to go on most of the time, and that's why for a lot of us it's a time-consuming and exhaustive process of elimination before we decide on any procedure whether it's VFS, SRS, FFS, etc.
I would say just continue doing what you're doing. Get started on professional voice training and see how that goes. Continue to add to your savings just in case. In that case you'll keep both options covered and can decide later on whether voice training was enough or not. Depending on how long that goes for there might even be more testimonials from Yeson that could strengthen (or not) your desire to have it done.
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