These are just my opinions, but I'll have a go:
Quote from: spacerace on September 20, 2013, 01:12:28 PM1. He is straight - what is he going to as more changes happen? Awesomely, my voice had its first drop this week. It is noticeable, and I think it makes him uncomfortable. I am getting hairier too, etc.
Congrats on your first changes. As for what he is going to do - no one here can answer that because we're not him. He will have to make a choice ultimately - love you for the person you are and be attracted to you regardless of appearance or decide if his possible rejection of male characteristics is going to override his feelings about the relationship in general. Some straight cisguys find they can't cope with being "gay" suddenly - some have no issue with it.
I'd have a frank and in-depth conversation about it if you truly believe that this relationship is going in the direction of serious.
Quote from: spacerace on September 20, 2013, 01:12:28 PM2. Formerly, I was physically attracted to the female physique only. I love my bestfriend, and I think the attraction is based on that love and wanting to have that connection. Can my sexuality really be shifting because of T?
Once again the "T will make me gay" myth arises. It is a myth. You may find that you are simply more open to and interested in a variety of sexual experiences with the hormonal changes in your body - or, those attractions may have always been there under the surface of your subconscious and you never felt comfortable enough in yourself to allow them the freedom to emerge. Either way, who cares what you're attracted to? I dislike the inclination of people to base their entire identity on their sexuality - "I'm a lesbian - I can't be attracted to men!" or "I'm gay - why do I like this woman?".
Quote from: spacerace on September 20, 2013, 01:12:28 PM3. I would never, never, ever use the 'front hole.' Additionally, semen terrifies me, so I really want it nowhere near me. As in, I prefer a 6 ft distance at least. The thought of getting pregnant is so revolting, and I don't know how to get over this problem.
Take birth control or have him use a condom. If he uses a condom, you don't have to see it or get it on or near you. Find ways to experiment with sex so that he, as well as you, can have a satisfying experience. Just remember that sex is about compromise and that means you, too - he will obviously have to make compromises in what he can or can't do with you sexually due to this semen phobia of yours and your dysphoria. But it's not fair for you not to give a little, too. It takes two, after all.
Quote from: spacerace on September 20, 2013, 01:12:28 PMIs there any chance I could get pregnant from something other than PIV sex? What do gay trans guys do for birth control? I feel like I will live in terror without having any indication monthly I am not pregnant if I come anywhere near the possibility.
Condoms, folks. Yes, you can get pregnant if his semen finds its way near your "front hole" - that includes anal sex unprotected.
Quote from: spacerace on September 20, 2013, 01:12:28 PM4. Can I really forgive him for his prior extreme transphobia? He is my rock, and I am his. He was there for me when I needed it in a serious way and continues to be my support frame.
Look, trans people come down pretty hard on transphobia and for good reason. There is a point, however, when you need to realise that not all cis people are out to kill and mame us - their fear or dislike comes from ignorance and insecurity for the most part. If he is obviously changed now and you feel it to be genuine, then leave the past in the past.
Quote from: spacerace on September 20, 2013, 01:12:28 PM5. I pass pretty consistently. He will never see himself as a gay male. At this point, the path is chosen and we are really getting back into a relationship. I have no idea how he will handle this in front of his friends as changes become super obvious. I haven't even come out to our other roommate yet.
Do you want him to consider himself to be gay? If so, then that's something that you need to address within yourself because he doesn't HAVE TO consider himself gay at all - he can still call himself straight if he likes. After all, how many trans guys' "lesbian" girlfriends refuse to call themselves anything other than a lesbian, even after their partners have come out as wholly male? What he chooses to or not to identify as shouldn't be an issue for you if you are secure in your relationship.
Again, have a chat. I know that a lot of these worries of yours can be cleared up if you're honest and up front. Lack of communication can and WILL sink you - I'd nip these issues in the bud before you get too far down the road.
