So I came out to my family...

[LilLivvy91]

this was over a period of 1.5 years. (my mom knew im sure but she is deceased now) My sister, two brothers and their now ex girlfriends (once you get in my family, u never get out), grandma, closest friends and most recently my dad. They all say they're fine with it but i have a strong feeling that once i start changing, they're gonna jump ship. Probably not my sister, grandma, and closest older brother but i almost know for a fact everyone else will. Most of my family is 100% genuine Southern Baptist, you know that religion your grandparents probably followed back in the 30's. I'm not saying I can't go on without them, but I really don't want to take this journey without my people.

I really don't care what the rest of society thinks i just want my family support. I know that's selfish of me, but i have a right to be selfish because i was robbed of my best friend, Mama.

What I'm getting at ladies (and gentlemen) is... in your experience, have you encountered these thoughts/feelings and did the true outcome surprise you?

[FrancisAnn]

I only cared about my parents & they are both deceased. I so wish I had been more open with them early in life. My mother knew I was a little girl anyway & offered to help me any way she could. My father was not happy at all so I was not that close with him.

Your family is & will be important so try your best to let them understand your need to improve your gender.

[Ovada]

My mother and sisters will most likely support me, my father.. He was uh.. Yeah.
He has the bad traits of a certain type of Muslim father, with drugs and brain trauma. I'm not sure what he'll think, I'm sure it won't matter to me, and he barely recognizes me as it is.

I'll let you know how this works out though. I'll support you!

[Ltl89]

I'm sorry that you lost your mother. (hugs)

My family is essential to my life.  I'm a total mommy's girl and would be devastated if she completely rejected me.  It nearly came to that and it was some of the worst moments of my entire life.  Luckily, she has been slowly coming around.  she doesn't condone my decision, but she supports and loves her child.  that gives us enough foundation to work through the issues.  My sisters are also important to me.  Luckily, I have had there support the whole time even if they said something to irk me at times.  Besides, we're an Italian family and fights are natural,lol.   As for my father, it's complicated.  He knows but he doesn't know.  It's hard to explain.  However, it will destroy me if he no longer supports me.  We may never see each other and rarely talk, but he is my father and is a great man.  I'll always love him with my whole heart.   So, yeah, I can relate with you about needing my families support and not feeling comfortable without them.  I've only been out and transitioning for a few months; therefore, I can't say what will happen in the future.  What I can say is that things have been a roller coaster, and I have certainly been shocked by things that were said and reactions that have occurred.   Even some of my own angry reactions to my mother is shocking because she is my best friend and it hurts that I said some terrible things as well. It's weird but even though I'm so early in the transition, these past few months have been like a lifetime with all the emotions and reactions that occur.  Anyway, I'm rambling.  The short of it is, yes I do relate.