What gender are you in your dreams?

[vegie271]

How come the "don't have dreams" option is in there twice? won't that mess up the curve?

I picked that one because I have a sleep disorder and so most of the time I don't dream

then a whole lot of the time I don't remember anything

then when I do, I am female

[Oriah]

I am trans in my dreams.  There doesn't seem to be an option for that.

[vegie271]

I am trans in my dreams.  There doesn't seem to be an option for that.

I have never heard of trans being called a gender before 

I have basically heard of people talking about the gender binary male and female and others who are more general with gender fluid and bigender and a gender   

just to consider yourself trans as your gender declaration seems funny to me

would you want M, F N or T on your DL ?  I want F

and female on my birth certificate

I ask because I know people who Bigender and they actually want changes so they can get self declarations to change how they are seen

[Tessa James]

I had a fantastic dream last night.  I was soaring and able to float above the people and landscape and clearly felt myself as a winged transgirl. 
Prior to bedtime we were at an old fashioned american square dance in an historic grange hall.  Most of the locals are ok with me presenting as feminine but a visiting couple seemed uncomfortable.  When square dancing we eventually come into contact holding hands with every member of the square at some point.  I felt rejected by this visiting couple and while my common sense said, forget about it, my dreams allowed me to fly above the fray.
Oh thank goodness for dreams!

[Oriah]

I have never heard of trans being called a gender before 

I have basically heard of people talking about the gender binary male and female and others who are more general with gender fluid and bigender and a gender   

just to consider yourself trans as your gender declaration seems funny to me

would you want M, F N or T on your DL ?  I want F

and female on my birth certificate

I ask because I know people who Bigender and they actually want changes so they can get self declarations to change how they are seen

I'm just trans.  I was never truly a man, though I was once accepted as one, and I shall never TRULY be a woman, no matter how much I wish or do not wish for it to be so.  I have traits of both, physically, emotionally, and mentally.  I identify more with the female side of the binary, and have made changes to align myself more with this end.  I have rendered my testicles permanently non-functional, yet retain them.  I retain an adam's apple (though it's small...I see cis-women with larger ones) I still have my same voice and can achieve a male, female, or gender neutral dialogue at will.  I intend not ever to alter my body with surgery.  I wear these as my badges of honor....I don't wish to change them.  I will never be completely female or completely male.  I'm not enough of either and too much of both.  And I'm okay with it.  I'm trans.  I'll always be trans.  And though I've made a choice as to how I appear and present, I'm still just me....a soul adorned with flesh and bones.  And everyday I use the wisdom I learned while living as a male and living as a female.  At the end of the day, I feel equally detached from and attached to both genders.  I hold both at arms distance.  I've learned to trust neither and love both.  I am trans.  I was born identified as a male, transformed to be identified as female, and it's the transformation itself that helped me blossom into the unique being that I am.  Thus I identify as trans.

[Tessa James]

I'm just trans.  I was never truly a man, though I was once accepted as one, and I shall never TRULY be a woman, no matter how much I wish or do not wish for it to be so.  I have traits of both, physically, emotionally, and mentally.  I identify more with the female side of the binary, and have made changes to align myself more with this end.  I have rendered my testicles permanently non-functional, yet retain them.  I retain an adam's apple (though it's small...I see cis-women with larger ones) I still have my same voice and can achieve a male, female, or gender neutral dialogue at will.  I intend not ever to alter my body with surgery.  I wear these as my badges of honor....I don't wish to change them.  I will never be completely female or completely male.  I'm not enough of either and too much of both.  And I'm okay with it.  I'm trans.  I'll always be trans.  And though I've made a choice as to how I appear and present, I'm still just me....a soul adorned with flesh and bones.  And everyday I use the wisdom I learned while living as a male and living as a female.  At the end of the day, I feel equally detached from and attached to both genders.  I hold both at arms distance.  I've learned to trust neither and love both.  I am trans.  I was born identified as a male, transformed to be identified as female, and it's the transformation itself that helped me blossom into the unique being that I am.  Thus I identify as trans.

Well stated and easy for me to identify with Oriah.  Thank you
Some sleep and dream researchers consider dreams to be preparation for the next day and a sort of categorization of so much stimulus we experience consciously or not.  Here's to flying on the Transworld Airliner...........

[Oriah]

Well stated and easy for me to identify with Oriah. 

Glad you can relate!  I kind of thought everybody would just think I'm nuts....

[vegie271]

I'm just trans.  I was never truly a man, though I was once accepted as one, and I shall never TRULY be a woman, no matter how much I wish or do not wish for it to be so.  I have traits of both, physically, emotionally, and mentally.  I identify more with the female side of the binary, and have made changes to align myself more with this end.  I have rendered my testicles permanently non-functional, yet retain them.  I retain an adam's apple (though it's small...I see cis-women with larger ones) I still have my same voice and can achieve a male, female, or gender neutral dialogue at will.  I intend not ever to alter my body with surgery.  I wear these as my badges of honor....I don't wish to change them.  I will never be completely female or completely male.  I'm not enough of either and too much of both.  And I'm okay with it.  I'm trans.  I'll always be trans.  And though I've made a choice as to how I appear and present, I'm still just me....a soul adorned with flesh and bones.  And everyday I use the wisdom I learned while living as a male and living as a female.  At the end of the day, I feel equally detached from and attached to both genders.  I hold both at arms distance.  I've learned to trust neither and love both.  I am trans.  I was born identified as a male, transformed to be identified as female, and it's the transformation itself that helped me blossom into the unique being that I am.  Thus I identify as trans.

Well stated and easy for me to identify with Oriah.  Thank you
Some sleep and dream researchers consider dreams to be preparation for the next day and a sort of categorization of so much stimulus we experience consciously or not.  Here's to flying on the Transworld Airliner...........

I see - that is great - society needs to make room for people like you a proper designation for you even on ID -  see for me it is different - I was born female -  I knew this at 3 - for me the trans designation is only useful for getting a medical diagnosis long enough to get the HRT setup  and then to get my ID change and my birth cert corrected and all the correct setup that should have been done because the doctors made a mistake when I was born

then I can integrate into society even if I never get SRS because society prevents it

[JillSter]

I'm about 50/50 in my dreams. Before I understood any of this I was seeing a therapist (long time ago) and I remember telling her about how I'm often female in my dreams (among other big hints) but she never put it together. I wish she had, but it's my own fault for not telling her everything.

I've had a recurring nightmare for as long as I can remember that I'm talking to someone -- and in the dream I'm female, and everything is fine. But then I look down at my body and see that it's male. Then I start freaking out and worrying that they'll notice. But they never do. I always wake up first.

It may not sound like a nightmare to cis people, but holy gawd! I wake up hyperventilating and in complete panic mode. The interesting thing is I haven't had that dream since I started talking about these things with my new therapist. Talking about it really does help a lot; even on a subconscious level it seems.

[Magnus]

As early as I could remember them, male. Don't know why (or even how) but especially as a kid, most of my dreams entailed marking territory in all kinds of settings (even once, a mall while on an escalator... I think ). Weird but true. I literally never even knew what a boy had until around age 8 (basically a very sheltered childhood, no siblings, no males in the immediate family and so forth) but somehow I dreamed about that in accurate detail. As an adult I dream much less frequently or else just don't remember them. On the rare occasions I actually do, and when they involve self, they're always in the male perspective and rightfully so. In fact I don't ever recall having a single dream in the female perspective before.