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Is it ever to Late to do this?

Started by Natanat, September 25, 2013, 08:24:47 AM

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Natanat

Hello!
Currently I Am seeking a clinic or atleast a consultation for HRT.
I'm finally on my way to get my body to match my soul.

I was wondering however, is it to late?
I am 24 years old.
Is this too late?
I always hear stories about the most beautiful girls who used to be men
and most of the people ive heard of or seen started in their mid to late teens.

This was not an option for me.
now i am on my own with a respectable career (one that would support my decision)
but I wonder, how much of me will stay the same?
I want to be smoother, and rounder in my features.
I just don't want to be one of those girls to where its obvious of what I used to be.
I know that without a doubt ill need facial reconstruction surgery, and work done on my adams apple.
but I was wondering, is my age a factor in this?
is it ever too late?
I don't wanna look like who i'm not anymore.
im not having second thoughts, just thoughts in general.

what do you guys think?
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Lesley_Roberta

25? yer kidding right? :)

If I were to consider a 25 year old romantically, I'd feel like a total pervert, a creep, sicko, weirdo :)

Yer young enough to be my daughter and almost my grand daughter.

And I plan to start the process from where I am currently. And I have seen plenty of good looking people my age. Who started out the other way.

I also see quite a few people in their 20s, and to be blunt, they look good enough for me to have horny thoughts about :)

But if life has no interest in you being pin up material, well that's the way it's going to be eh.

Some Mtf will be fat guys turning into fat girls. Some Ftm will be smallish girls, turning into smallish guys. Because you can't always get to be the blonde beach broad with the awesome rack, and if you are 5'nothing much, you can't expect to blossom into a football line backer.

If you want to end up a great looking woman, here's a horrible truth. You need to obsess over your weight every day, and you need to fret over cosmetics all the time, and spend a lot of time in the gym. Your wardrobe needs to be stunning and you can forget a lot of things you won't be able to afford, because you will be spending your money ensuring that walking down the beach in a swimsuit has an erotic reaction on the normal hetero males.

It's not easy for the cis females to do this eh.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Taka

it's never too late. this forum has more than enough older members to prove this.
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vlmitchell

Um. Wow, yeah, echoing the above comments, 25 is a baby compared to the average age of the typical MtF. There are younger girls every day now but 25 is no problem at all.
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Beth Andrea

It's only too late when one is dead. (And contrary to many young people's beliefs...life does not end at 30)

Good luck, and I'm sure you'll do well! :)
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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suzifrommd

52 year old here, been living as a full-time woman for 3 months. Definitely not too late for me.

Though I felt a real urgency to transition quickly because I didn't want to waste one more second than I had to of the time I had left.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Carlita

Quote from: suzifrommd on September 25, 2013, 12:27:23 PM
I felt a real urgency to transition quickly because I didn't want to waste one more second than I had to of the time I had left.

Oh, I SO relate to that!!
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Robin Mack

Quote from: suzifrommd on September 25, 2013, 12:27:23 PM
Though I felt a real urgency to transition quickly because I didn't want to waste one more second than I had to of the time I had left.

39 here, same thing... barely enough time to re-establish a career in the *proper* gender, but young enough to be crazy enough to try!  At least now I can imagine myself being an old woman one day.  There was no future at all for me in being an old man. 

:)
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Alainaluvsu

Its all luck. I've seen women that started at 17 and you can tell easily. But I started at 29 and it is rare that anybody suspects a thing... And the people that DO know brag about how great I look  ::)

It all depends on what you look like before you do anything.
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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Ms. OBrien CVT

It is never too late.  I beagn at 54, and I am now 59.

  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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Tessa James

While ->-bleeped-<- granny is not my favorite title it's true for this old thang.  I am having a great time and only wish I would have started at 25.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Jaelithe

oh heavens hon, I wish I'd had the resources and knowledge to begin at 25.  I'm just beginning now and I'm looking at 34 in the coming months.  Welcome to the fold and feel free to ask us anything!  There are a lot of different perspectives available, from other beginners like myself, to ladies who finished decades ago!


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Ltl89

Hey Natanat,

I'm also 24, so perhaps I can relate with your fears.  I too get scared about whether or not I will pass and wonder about my future.  As many of the above posters have said, we are children compared to a lot of other trans women.  This doesn't always play a factor as hormones are unpredictable, but we are in a good age to start.  Nothing is perfect and you can't go into this with false expectations; however, it is possible to have a very successful transition.  Just don't hope for the impossible, like your bone structure changing and make sure you learn about what hormones can and can't do.

At the moment, my experience has been positive, but has left me wanting so much more.  While I have been on for only a little bit, I am happy by the changes and also upset that it's taking so long.  I'm progressing, but not as quickly as I'd like and still feel uncertain about things.  Therefore, please realize that it's a waiting game and easy to get impatient while you are in the midst of it due to the time frame and unpredictable nature.  As for passing potential, I don't know what to say.  In my case, I do believe I will pass one day (at least I hope), but I do get scared and worry.  To be honest, I think the hardest person to convince in our transition is the most important person, ourselves.  Even if I one day pass in the eyes of everyone else and am viewed as gorgeous, I still need to pass in my own eyes.  That's hard
to do because we are the most aware of our flaws and we can nitpick anything that isn't 100% feminine.  This is something I have to learn to work with.

I wanted to share my experience because you are the same age as me and seem to have the same fears.  Because I can't fully answer your question, I wanted to at least share my experience so far and hope it will help you in some way.

Good luck with everything!
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Taka

Quote from: learningtolive on September 25, 2013, 03:27:40 PM
That's hard to do because we are the most aware of our flaws and we can nitpick anything that isn't 100% feminine.  This is something I have to learn to work with.
my super feminine cis female little sister does that too. complains that her arms and facial features and this and that are too "manly". i don't think any other person in the world would be able to see the flaws that she claims to have. it seems to me that all girls worry about being feminine enough, no matter how perfect they get.
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decepticonLaura

do i get to count myself as part of the Young Club? where do we draw the line? i'm 28, but i look and feel just like i did at 20
what does age mean? i didn't transition at 16 because i was convinced i'd be stuck halfway, that it was too late and i'd never be complete or feel right
by 27 i knew i had no choice, i guess it's the perspective that matters... the... not confidence, but something similar... to throw yourself in, hoping for the best of all you need to be.
i wish i'd started at 25 but everyone wishes for futilities.
you have to do what's right for you
and do it as bold as you can
:D
O this is progress towards perfection (the link is to my transition blog)
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Eva Marie

I'm about to turn 51 and I just started on this journey. Our individual bells go off at different ages; such is life.
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Jamiep

I started to seriously explore my gender in the last twelve years & am now 72. The chemical wars of hrt on my body I have just now found out with my gender Doctor is not conducive to a safe partial transition. There are people that have posted here starting transition at my age. People in their 60's. I have personal friends transitioning in their 50's. Perhaps there isn't a bad time. Your realization will give wonderful results as an early bird. You have your whole life ahead to live the fullest as who you are.

Jamie
We are made of star stuff - Carl Sagan
Express Yourself
Own your zone
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