new to this

[nightdreamer831]

so when i started dating my fiance i had no idea he wanted to be a female. it wasn't until months of dating that i found out. he wrote me in a letter while i was at basic training saying he had been cross-dressing and wanted me to dress him up and call him princess. at first i didn't know what to think so i just ignored it until i could talk to him about it in person. im getting used to the idea and still love him a lot. i actually kind of enjoy it when i dress him up and refer to him as a girl because he looks so happy. he cross-dresses in private and talks about having a sex change operation and i am going to fully support him. however we live in a very small close minded town and im afraid people will harass him. also does this make me a lesbian now? he doesn't want me telling anyone so i guess i just need someone to talk to about all this, its still really new to me.

[Shards]

Hi. I'm a significant other and am also new to this. We live in a small town, too, and that is one of my biggest worries. My spouse doesn't dress publicly in our town, and I'm not sure when she will go full-time.

Personally, I'm not too concerned about labels. I've always identified hetero, but perhaps it turns out that I'm bi. I just know that I love my spouse.

Good luck to you and your fiance(e).

[brit91]

I am a cis female and my boyfriend is ftm.. we lived in a small town and then decided to move to a big city/different state.. small town transitioning can be scary but regardless wherever you go there is always going to be people who choose to be rude. I don't really think labels are all that important and it can become to stressful to look into labeling yourself. as long as your happy and you love the person your with thats all that matters =)
Feel free to inbox me if you need someone to talk to.