Can someone give me a bit of advice?

[_wut_]

I need a bit of advice.
  I've been talking to this guy, and we've both made it clear that we like each other.

He thinks I'm a biological male, but I think he should know that I'm not.
  I don't know if I should tell him or not, or when/how to tell him.

[Jessica Merriman]

Sorry for the vague answer, but #1 honesty is the best policy. Can't build a trusting relationship without trust. As for the timing, be honest and tell him before the relationship goes too far. If found out much later there is the potential for violence or other adverse reactions to the news. Hope this helps a little?

[Tessa James]

I agree with Jessica. I enjoyed dating guys in the past but found that many guys can readily do the hook up thing.  It may serve you well to get used to a slow and deliberate kind of romance?  Talking things over, getting to know each other in different and fun situations first may help.

In my opinion you do not owe anyone an explanation about your gender identity or what is between your legs.  However, if you feel that you two are going further and intimacy is a likely event it is far more enjoyable to have a sense of trust and safety IMO.

Good luck

[Ltl89]

It's up to you.  I believe that honesty is the best policy, but some don't believe they should have to disclose.  If you choose to disclose, however, you don't need to do so right away.  Some people choose early on in a relationship, but after a few dates.  That way you get to know each other and tell them once you are certain you would like to pursue it further.  I haven't it done it myself, but that's my plan.  Good luck!

[_wut_]

i don't know.

Its like I'm terrified to tell him, which is stupid..

I've easily told other people, but trying to tell him is difficult.
And it shouldn't be, i don't think..

[Jessica Merriman]

You will be more terrified if he finds out from someone else. You never know how people will react! Be careful brother! You're family now and I would miss you if it went wrong. Don't hurt yourself or your sister (me). Tell him

[_wut_]

i guess you're right.
   Its just, what if he don't like me anymore? I guess that's what scares me.. i dont know.



And, I don't plan on hurting anyone. don't like hurting people.

[Jessica Merriman]

Then it was not meant to be. I know you would not hurt him, but he may get enraged if he finds out from someone else and you may not see him coming.

[_wut_]

You're right..

I probaly should've already told him.. Might as well get it over with though.

[Jessica Merriman]

Don't think it is doom and gloom yet, brother. It might go well, OK? BIG HUG

[_wut_]

Now to wait on a response.. waiting is probably the hardest part. :\

[Jessica Merriman]

I applaud you're courage little brother. Hang in there. It is not over yet, you might be pleasantly surprised. Wishing you the best.

[bethanyjadefowell]

You need to tell them the right way at the right time. First you'd tell him you use to be female and why you HAD to change your gender. Also if you've had GRS or not. you would need to tell him this. Because, he will ask what you have down there.

Should it matter to him what you have down there? Yes or No. How can you have sex, if he does not like what you have?

If you have had GRS then it should be fine (if he's ok with who you use to be)

[_wut_]

He still hasn't said anything.. and the waiting for an answer is killing me. .-.

Also, thanks everyone for helping me out.

[Jessica Merriman]

Hang in there Bro!

[_wut_]

I think he's okay with it.. not sure.

He asked if it was a bad thing.. I told him that i didnt think it was, and asked what he thought.

So, maybe I was nervous for nothing, haha.

[Ltl89]

I think he's okay with it.. not sure.

He asked if it was a bad thing.. I told him that i didnt think it was, and asked what he thought.

So, maybe I was nervous for nothing, haha.

Awesome, I hope it works out!