Today was my 27th anniversary
It was not given any fan fare though. It is special mainly because tomorrow will be 27 years plus 1 day more.
The day had us walk to the mall, for no real specific need. I stopped by mom's and had a blueberry smoothie. We didn't buy anything today, there just wasn't anything to get today.
What makes the day great is mainly we were able to enjoy it not needing to do anything specific.
Yeah sure we could have done many cliche things. Bought cliche gifts, done cliche dinner and cliche romantic intimate activities. But in the end, the thing that makes my wife great is just her stubborn dedication eh
Married stays as married in my viewpoint, if the couple has something more than the basic and the ordinary keeping it strong.
If you married because they looked great, well we all get old, and great looking is mainly something for the young.
As you get older, things stop working quite as much as they used to
And as I look back, you need something that really goes past the simple and the ordinary. You don't remain married just for the kids. Kids grow up and move out, and then you need something else.
You don't remain married just for the sake of maintaining a lifestyle. If your marriage is about mortgage payments and auto payments, well those things are not permanent. I've been poor longer than I have been anything else. But that is financially poor. My life has been rich in other areas. I wasn't able to put my son into a nice house like my brother has for his 4 boys, but, my son has never known daycare. He was raised in a home where a parent was always present all the time. I think it has made the difference.
My wife has never known any form of regular interval of not being around me. Work has not forced her to not have me present X days out of the week. Sure it means we can sometimes feel underfoot to each other
But we also share a bond that is fairly solid too.
I think my wife wants me more for what's between my ears than what is between my legs. And while what's between our legs is how we realize those moments of supreme bliss as humans, it's only good for 30 minutes of fun and mere seconds of bliss, and then you need something of lasting substance to get the rest of the day filled. I can live without the 30 minutes of fun and that 15 second burst of bliss. But I can't live without the companionship aspect of the day where she really just needs to be somewhere in the home doing whatever she is doing at the time.
Humans like sex, but NEED companionship. I won't die without sex, but likely would die if I was alone.
I think that is why older persons that survive the passing of a mate, rarely live to be much older. My mother has done really well to continue on since dad passed away in 2007. But I think her not living alone made the difference. She was with sister for several years. And the last going on 3 years now, she has had me dropping by almost every single day for visits. I have helped her not feel like she is alone.
My mom and dad enjoyed 50 years. It's going to be a good while till I meet that challenge
I am not worried about what I will be wearing on that day. I just hope I am doing it with my wife.
