Does anyone hate being a man

[sophiaInside]

I don't know how to describe it, but recently when i dress up I don't want to go back, I much rather be female all the time but I can't really say that I hate it.

[janetcgtv]

Because of health I cannot have SRS, but as for my testicles the doctors can cut them off, put them in a food processor,let it do its job, then dump them done the toilet. I don't know why anyone on other sites would want to make earrings out of them.

Being born female would have been a lot better.

[Chrissy]

Hate is such a strong word. Dislike at times yes. Like at other times, sure. I my opinion, both men and women have perks in this world. I have watched my daughter get her tires inflated on her car at the tire shop when it's -20F outside by simply cocking her head and giving a sweet smile to the young men working there. It is amazing how quickly they drop what they are working on and fill her tires. That's powerful stuff. I have also seen the lines to get into the woman's room at our local sports arena during half time and was happy that I was heading for the men's room where there was no line. Perception is the key. I am closeted for the most part and have boundaries set by my wife and am content being who I need to be at any particular time.

[ameera]

only when "they" get in the way

[TheQuestion]

I was that way for a while; I saw some fun in being a man for a time.  Not to scare you but it has evolved to the point where I feel transitioning is a must.  You may be different...

[jaybutterfly]

Hi , does anyone else utterly hate being male , but not the urge or inclination to go down the gender reassignment route .

That's where I am. Only perk I can think of right now is the body strength buff, aside from that, nothing. I want to be a pretty girl and instead Im a hairy, sweaty thing haha.

I kinda laugh about it now, having understanding friends makes all the difference

[Katelyn]

I do completely get what you're saying and I realize my above post comes off as a little more than bitter and jaded, but I didn't mean it to be.
I guess my feelings in general with gender dysphoria have led me to feel incredibly more negatively about the female experience than is typical. I can also concede that there are some items on that list which, while still true enough in certain circumstances, may simply be more exacerbated to me.

I do apologize if I indirectly offended anyone with my harsh summary, but I'm finding that this forum is an excellent place to vent things I've been cramming inside for years.

I know I'm resurrecting an old post here, but I have some things to say after browsing this forum for another reason. 

As much as I've wanted to be female, I have been attuned to the "negatives" about being a woman, and it has in a way hindered my transitioning.

Yes, I know that:

- Women are gossipy and can be pretty cruel towards each other compared to guys
- Women are more sensitive in general and more likely to have conflicts compared to male friendships
- Just walking at night is more dangerous for women than for men
- As a woman you are criticized a lot more for even small things compared to a man
- As a woman, it can take a lot longer to get ready to go out, and body maintenance is a lot more complicated compared to how men have it.
- As a woman, you are bombarded more by images that make you feel "less than" compared to men.
- As a woman, you are seen by men as inferior when it comes to certain things

I'm all aware of that.  I've developed male personas that revel in being able to go anywhere, when I want to, not having to worry about safety, be highly competitive (and aggressive),  taking advantage of not having to take care of my looks, and doing some reveling in freedom.

Yet, I still have to deal with the desire to be a woman on a daily basis, the desire to be womanly (a feminine woman) and the desire to have a vagina and the desire to have a female body, to be in the female world (to be one of the girls), to have breasts, to act like a feminine woman, to have emotional freedom, to have people actually care about and help me, etc...  I still have to deal with the fact that I can't make a life for myself because I don't resolve my gender issues in a way that will satisfy me (and no option that I am considering is without having considerable freedom to be female.)

There are drawbacks to each gender, but expressing one's true self is far more important and makes the drawbacks less of a significant deal.

[Aazhie]

I know I'm resurrecting an old post here, but I have some things to say after browsing this forum for another reason. 

As much as I've wanted to be female, I have been attuned to the "negatives" about being a woman, and it has in a way hindered my transitioning.

Yes, I know that:

- Women are gossipy and can be pretty cruel towards each other compared to guys
- Women are more sensitive in general and more likely to have conflicts compared to male friendships
- Just walking at night is more dangerous for women than for men
- As a woman you are criticized a lot more for even small things compared to a man
- As a woman, it can take a lot longer to get ready to go out, and body maintenance is a lot more complicated compared to how men have it.
- As a woman, you are bombarded more by images that make you feel "less than" compared to men.
- As a woman, you are seen by men as inferior when it comes to certain things

I'm all aware of that.  I've developed male personas that revel in being able to go anywhere, when I want to, not having to worry about safety, be highly competitive (and aggressive),  taking advantage of not having to take care of my looks, and doing some reveling in freedom.

Yet, I still have to deal with the desire to be a woman on a daily basis, the desire to be womanly (a feminine woman) and the desire to have a vagina and the desire to have a female body, to be in the female world (to be one of the girls), to have breasts, to act like a feminine woman, to have emotional freedom, to have people actually care about and help me, etc...  I still have to deal with the fact that I can't make a life for myself because I don't resolve my gender issues in a way that will satisfy me (and no option that I am considering is without having considerable freedom to be female.)

There are drawbacks to each gender, but expressing one's true self is far more important and makes the drawbacks less of a significant deal.

I've found that there are people who can take 'being their gender' a little too seriously.  When they are transgender I can sympathize a lot more, as I am generally still assumed to be a girl rather than the man I would like to be seen as.  It's tough to pass for some and even when you do, you have had to think about it all the time.  Really the only way to overcome it is to make peace with your situation and accept that life will never be perfect, even when/if you look perfect!  Perceptions of who has it worse will always be different depending on how you look at it.  I feel that in the USA, as that is where I grew up, women are often told the world is an awful, dangerous place that wants to kill and rape you. To me, it seems that women often believe they are less able to protect themselves, and men are sort of duped into thinking they are invincible simply because they are men- as well as sometimes being told they are awful and gross simply for being male.  So to me, this is a total disservice to everyone.  Women can be totally ruthless and powerful and men can be victimized and ought to be aware that they can be.  Buying into the stereotypes just hurts everyone and puts us all into annoying little boxes that do not fit and make us feel bad for being ourselves. But i also feel there are many people who find out these ideas or not useful and make their lives into what they need or want to be and do not give and F for following the "rules" of being a man, woman or even forgo choosing any gender role because they know they can simply be themselves without having to choose.

But do not let the gossipy mean attitudes sway you, the kinds of people that act like that are not usually worth your time anyways.  People who have to buy into stereotypes and backstab others are usually bitter and have low confidence in themselves and will eventually hurt you badly. You are right about your true self. Regardless of gender, we all have the potential to be true and great.  Circumstances can make it hard to shine, but I think even the most downtrodden and ill-lucked individuals can still change their situation and turn their lives around.  Even if they cannot, in my mind it's still worth fighting for to be yourself and believe in what you can accomplish.

[mac1]

Never really hated being a man but always felt i should have been a woman.  Given my present circumstances, I could accept having full genital nullification, female breasts, and the ability to pass and be accepted as either "F" or "M" without question.

[GamerDysphoria]

Very much so. I feel so imprisoned in my own body. I hate the sight of it. I treat it as separate from myself cause I cannot bare it being me. I am jealous anytime I see a girl with pretty hair or a cute dress. I have no outlets to express myself except for 3 days a year when I can go to an anime convention that is accepting of cross dressing. I try to get away with little girly things like a cute cell phone case but I couldn't even get away with that (I got publicly shamed for it) it takes increasingly more and more effort to keep from crying when I see people who are free/female

The whole gamergate mess has made open misandry far more accepted in public, on the sites I used to read every day and it wears on me.

[Mariah]

Hi GamerDysphoria, welcome to Susan's. I can totally relate to that jealousy factor of seeing them were what I wasn't allowed to where at least out in the open. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

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[Marly]

Personally, I don't hate myself as a man. But I'm pretty bad at "being" a man. Not attractive, not aggressive and women don't even give me a glance ...Not that they will when/if I am transwoman. But I figure my chances won't be any worse. So I'm considering making myself more comfortable (even considering HRT has made me feel my feminine side more and I feel happier)

[Sandy74]

I wouldn't say that I hate being a man but would say that I would love to be a woman instead but the lifestyle that I live when it comes to the job and my hobbies I just find its easier to just be a man than trying to become a female.

I work seasonal jobs and travel all over the United States and end up being in dorm style rooms where I have a roommate. So dressing full time is not an option I have without constantly being judged. You don't know know how much I wish I could go to bed in panties and a bra but I can't because I have a roommate.

[Breanna93]

Well I totaly suck at being a man, and as I've never gone (out public) as anything else, my whole life was a huge FAILURE !
I've had beautiful women glance /talk to me but never had a glue what to do, like battleship without a rubber.
I live as a recluse, no friends, no family anymore, I cant even sit in the tea room at work with the other (because I cant stand myself in company).  Its a battle just to have a conversation with someone.
I cant do the act and play the scrip ANY MORE !!!
So (now I'm sobbing) yeah, I hate being a  man.   

[RavenL]

I wouldn't say I really hate it. Just uncomfortable when I have to present as one. Even before I figured stuff out I couldn't stand looking at myself in the mirror and when I did got it done as quick as possible, along with horrible body modesty issues. Where I couldn't even go out in shorts. And even clothes for guys fit me weird where I look like a tent is on me. Women never gave me the time of day either, And I've always looked really uncomfortable in public to the point where strangers asked me what was wrong. Also I've always have had a issue with hiding my emotions to the point at my job I've almost broke down in tears which is a no no for a guy.