stealth at work.

[kariann330]

I know Walmart is a really friendly company to work for but im kind of wanting a stealth transition. My position has me all over the sales floor so a change in department won't really help any. Other then messing with my beauty rest and changing shifts all together, does anyone have any advice for a stealth transition at work, or would an open be a lot easier in the long run?
Thanks for yalls opinions, especially if you also work at wally world.

[Evolving Beauty]

Always begin stealth and test the waters first, if it's safe you can open more. But if you pass, I don't see the necesity of disclosing, it's irrelevant. They can use this as a weapon against you in the future specially in competitive jobs. And if you wanna remain stealth never say a single person at work and keep your personal life for yourself, never trust anyone at work, not a single one. Once you say only one, it scatters like wild fires.

[Megumi]

I agree with testing the waters. I've been doing it little by little and people don't seem to notice but I'm still pre everything at this point so other than hair, nails, shaved beard, and some mannerisms I have nothing else to worry about. There will come a point when it begins to be obvious that something is going on. You can hide breasts for so long until people start asking. I'm still not sure what route I'm going to take at work.

[Alainaluvsu]

I would imagine it would be difficult being stealth at work if you transition there. Somebody is bound to slip on a pronoun or something in front of people who don't know. However if you go to a new location and you pass well enough, I wouldn't disclose.

[ErinM]

I too work for another major "big box retailer" also a position that takes me all over the sales floor. Even if I did pass 100% I wouldn't consider stealth unless I transferred stores.

For me, I've gone the open route and people (at least the ones to say anything) have been very supportive. My biggest problem was that management and supervisors were supposed to tell everyone while I was away, but a number of people didn't find out so I had to start telling them myself - while on the sales floor.

[pebbles]

Yep I've been stealth at introduction at a few of my workplaces.

Simply enough get to know these people don't mention your past, and before you know it your stealth. Ultimately Be stealth until you get a feel for the environment then make your choices accordingly and do whatever makes your life easier.

Auntie Annies: I didn't tell anyone primarily because I wasn't there long enough I worked there for 1 month. The lady was crazy and she had an absurd staff turn over the longest serving employee had worked there 3 months.

Tescos Supermarket: I didn't tell anyone in the end after 6 months of working there. I didn't like them enough. The managers were abusive and frankly nobody had a chance to get to know me well enough.

Dichmanns Store: I didn't tell anyone until 4 months in. Here it was different, my co-workers were friendly as was my story manager, and we'd occasionally hang out after work as we were all similar ages, this is where I ran into the everyday problems of stealth as in I had to lie about my past. After I applied for another job in my desired career field. I realized these people who were quickly becoming my friends knew very little about me what would happen if I was successful? Would I just leave and forget them... It's not like they really knew me. I made the choice to leak this information about myself, most were completely astonished but one girl said she suspected but didn't know for sure. I'm still friends with them now.

FleetBio:
Similar to dichemanns people were kind and nice to me. I was abit torn here, I have a prejudice against religious people because I've suffered at the hands of them so this delayed my coming out by several months. and some of my co-workers were very Christian despite them begin scientists which surprised me. I kept silent for 4 months then I tested the water by speaking with our youngest and second newest labtech and telling her, she was accepting I also explained why I had hesitations. Eventually a couple months later I had a second wave of telling most everyone else... I did this because I had periodic hospital and GP visits and my boss who is a nice guy was genuinely concerned about my health although he didn't pry, because I needed to goto the doctor so often there was a rumour I might have cancer or something else serious. when this rumour reached back to me. I realized I had to put an end to it.

[Sammy]

Where I work, we have several departments on the same floor of the building and the main administrative compound in 5 min walking distance. In my department (seven people) only two know - my main boss and my best female friend - I knew her since university and they both are very supportive. Most of the stuff are younger employees and I want to see if they are going to stay - our only guy here just got selected for Fulbright and if he is gone afterwards than I dont see the need to disclose. I am dropping info here and there, trying to judge the reaction . Also I am very much bonding with all the girls on the floor on every occasion, because if things will keep going on the same pace - people will start realising and when that happens, I want them to think first about me as being a very nice person.