As for hrt for or against it, im going divulge a little teensy bit of my wife and mines history. Granted, we are thirty now, have been together for seven years....but shes known so to speak since we first met around age 13: shes always 100% been into men, and from day one
let me know as shes seen me live female off and on for years, that she needs a man. I took the statement for what it was, andw as fine at the time as i was supressing myself. Eventually, curiosity got to her, and once that box was opened, there was in essence no shutting it. She was curious as to my liking female clothing being so feminine anyways. Well, that led to weekends once a month, to once a week, over a very short time frame. And everytime i had to go into man mode, a deep rooted depression would hit, and hit hard. I tried further supressing myself by joining the army. Yet again, when we got the chance while i was in training after bootcamp, she would meet up with me every weekend, or me, her. That was a once a week trip for either of us, for quite a few monthes. Each time, my inner female was no longer supressed in privacy together. Well, once I got home to her, and had an assigned duty station, it was as often as possible, so as we kept it at home. Amd she would see my depression hit, and even went so far as to being mbaressed in public I was so feminine. Now, to me, in past relationships, this was a deal breaker for me, but we stuck it through together hone the less. Finally, we decided that HRT was the best route seeing as i was infertile, and that it would stop me from slowly being more and more and deeper depressed. We discussed things with my PC doc, I got testing. Sent me to an endo, read my test results, and informed us we couldnt get preggo cuz i was intersexed. Clothes off in front of him he was shocked the army never said anything and that i didnt get "fixed" at birth, and concurred with us that not only is HRT correct and true for me, but according to my bloodwork, medically nessecary. All that said, HRT hit me hard, and in good ways, and she saw this. In the end, we are fully out and ive been living full time since day one pretty much of deciding hrt was right. Prior i lived full time at home, once hrt started i went fulltime public and work as well.
I guess that my point is sometimes, wives tend to come around when they realize that love is there and the only thing changing really is a social role....asside from other changes we see as time goes on. Now, Im only four monthes in for the most part, but am legally female 100%....sometimes, it is better to just go with the flow, and once HRT starts, there is a way to back out, but if you are genuinely female, HRT will only further strengthen those emotions to a point of not being able to turn back, no matter what. Because that dark place is finally gone, and your chains of a male role get broken. And once that happens, well.....lol! You can figure that out from everyones stories, because it is true!