SRS

[Violet Bloom]

  I don't know what my SRS timeline will be yet but it would easily be 3-4 years away realisticly.  It would be nice if the medical science of SRS was ever-evolving and made some improvements by the time it's my turn, but I think the common practices right now are good enough to not hold me back.  I'll be too old for children by the time they figure out a working uterus I imagine.  Maybe I'll have better luck finding a partner with a natural one on-board.

[Gina_Z]

Yes, i understand the "deleting the male" part was widely misunderstood and i have to go to that thread and try correct that. It was never about erasing masculinity, but about deleting the fake shell that we put up to just get by. It just happens to be male looking. For me the analogy made sense as basically it was like i hit a delete butoon on a computer and then confirmed with yes and that was it, i could not get back to it if i wanted, i would have to build a new shell - obviously that was not what i wanted

'Deleting the male' can't be applied to a large group of MTF people. The word 'delete' has the connotation of speed, something instantaneous. Who has that experience as she transitions? I for one, cannot imagine it happening in an instant, but maybe I'm wrong. And Deleting the Male? Male implies a binary state that only exists as some sort of ideal state. So I cannot go along with that part either. Maybe you meant to say Stop putting up a false front, a false stereotypical male persona? Like standing around with a group of guys talking about last night's football game, when you could really care less. I think as time goes on, that kind of thing can slowly disappear. Many stop acting that way because it's not genuine. It's not who they are anymore. It's a pretense. But, then again, she might still love rebuilding her classic Chevy.

[anjaq]

'Deleting the male' can't be applied to a large group of MTF people. The word 'delete' has the connotation of speed, something instantaneous. Who has that experience as she transitions? I for one, cannot imagine it happening in an instant, but maybe I'm wrong. And Deleting the Male? 

Ok, maybe my experience is different or maybe i dont get it across well. For me it was instant - ok well I had to run through several confirmation popups but more or less instant. And it was not "deleting the male"! - it was "deleting the male simulation" or "deleting the stoic male (fake) persona".It has very little to do with the "male" activities and behaviours one still may have. But that instant deletionis about the part of oneself that tells us we have to do all these things to be seen as normal and not be bullied or scorned. The part of ourselves that was set up to guard our actions and thoughts so that we are not showing our true selves but pretend to be a guy. When that is deleted, basically the decision is made to not give a f anymore if people consider you a normal guy because you are not a guy at all - in that moment you are freed. and then all those behaiours and thoughts that existed only because of that will go away as you said because they dont interest you, they dont make sense, have no appeal. and others stay because they were not coming from that "fake persona". Makes more sense?