My relationship to my sex/gender

[Lo]

I think that's a pretty good summary of how a lot of people feel - but yeah, there's things like height and bone structure that are always gonna be there and make it tough to shake people's expectations. : ( 
It seems like some people just have a really unlucky time of it.

Some of us are luckier, which is sad. Too bad there aren't surgeries, or hell, magic pills, for everyone. Binaries say we aren't really trans because we don't want surgery... Whether we do or don't, doesn't mean we wouldn't take a differently gendered body if we could.

[Taka]

if i found a magic pill, i think a tail would be part of my new body. not because i want to be different, but because it feels so weird to not have one.
but the best would be to have the recipe for body changing pills, so i could change whenever i felt a need or curiosity.

[Kaelin]

It would make the process of figuring out what body is right (or at least better) a lot more quickly, rather than trying to guess/imagine based off gut feelings, testimonials, academia, and other research.

[Lo]

It's like being a police sketch artist, lol. Having to come up with how we want to look based on rudimentary descriptions since a real representation doesn't exist.

[Taka]

It's like being a police sketch artist, lol. Having to come up with how we want to look based on rudimentary descriptions since a real representation doesn't exist.

actually... that's a really good idea.
what if we found some pretty good sketch artists who'd be willing to draw our descriptions of ourselves. a non-binary artbook full of pics of the imaginable impossible.
for some reason, i think it would be more interesting to have someone else do it, than to draw myself. not only because i'm a lousy artist, but i also don't have the confidence to be honest enough about it.

[ativan]

https://www.google.com/search?q=androgyne+drawings&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=aARbUpm2EOjE4AOrjIH4Dw&ved=0CAkQ_AUoAQ&biw=1536&bih=757&dpr=1

There's some good Deviantart stuff if you look there.
http://kindoffreak.deviantart.com/art/Androgyne-364299229
Non-Binary artists, I believe.
Ativan

[insane_protagonist]

actually... that's a really good idea.
what if we found some pretty good sketch artists who'd be willing to draw our descriptions of ourselves. a non-binary artbook full of pics of the imaginable impossible.
for some reason, i think it would be more interesting to have someone else do it, than to draw myself. not only because i'm a lousy artist, but i also don't have the confidence to be honest enough about it.

There are OOODLES of artists online who can be commissioned - most of us drastically undercharge for art, too, haha!

I myself can't do photorealism well (rather, I don't enjoy drawing photorealistically, so I draw in a more cartoon style), but I do draw my comic characters to look a bit like my personal ideals. XD

[Taka]

oh, i know there are more than enough artists out there. but what i was thinking about was to seriously use a police sketch artist, someone who is used to draw people from just descriptions, to draw portraits of real people just the way they would want to be able to describe themselves. there are many who could draw good art, but i'd like a more realistic and honest rendering of myself, or of what people imagine when i try to describe the person i feel like i am. either that, or something abstract.

[LordKAT]

A guy drew a pic of me awhile back on this site. I was amazed at how well it showed me as I saw myself instead of what the mirror showed. I rather like the idea of some willing volunteers who would do so for other members. That would be a thread I would follow all the time I think. It would also maybe give hope to some who have low opinions of what the mirror shows.


BTW, this site has a number of excellent artists.

[ativan]

oh, i know there are more than enough artists out there. but what i was thinking about was to seriously use a police sketch artist, someone who is used to draw people from just descriptions, to draw portraits of real people just the way they would want to be able to describe themselves. there are many who could draw good art, but i'd like a more realistic and honest rendering of myself, or of what people imagine when i try to describe the person i feel like i am. either that, or something abstract.

Something like these commercials?



Theres several different ones, I think this is the one that explains what they are doing.
There are of course, the videos that have negative views about the commercials.
Ativan

[Taka]

something like that, ativan. just not with the stranger's opinion, unless that is someone who only knows your online self, with no pics to go with...

A guy drew a pic of me awhile back on this site. I was amazed at how well it showed me as I saw myself instead of what the mirror showed. I rather like the idea of some willing volunteers who would do so for other members. That would be a thread I would follow all the time I think. It would also maybe give hope to some who have low opinions of what the mirror shows.


BTW, this site has a number of excellent artists.

i've always suspected there were good artists here, unfortunately i haven't seen much of their art yet.
must be awesome to have your portrait drawn like that.

[Lo]

If it helps, Ativan, I can't even see my "ideal" self in anything resembling a realistic light. The image I have of myself in my head is one of my cartoon drawings. Looking at myself in the mirror is always a little disappointing.

[Taka]

it's not like i have a clear image of self either. i just think it would be interesting to make shape out of all the fuzz. the one thing i know is right about my looks are my eyebrows. doesn't get me very far... i can't see my gender or body shape or facial features. and whatever it is that i imagine myself as when i need a shape, it can get closer to a cartoon as well.

so i was mostly thinking of having a drawing that can make me look more like me, but also a little more human than just a fuzzy vapory figure. right now i see myself as light, but not long ago, i'd see more dark and shadow.