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Sudden increase in dysphoria

Started by Beth Andrea, October 18, 2013, 01:44:03 PM

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Beth Andrea

So there I was, minding my own business...when suddenly I became severely aware that I have male parts still.

Up till now (20 months into HRT) I've been able to ignore The Parts That Be Tucked....but now it feels really....odd...not unhealthy-odd, just ARRRGGGH!-odd.

Can't wait for SRS to happen. Maybe a year and a half, thereabouts.

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...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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Sammy

Hon, it is full moon tomorrow. I dunno about You, but I am not crazy, yet I feel it affecting me and making me more emotional and unfocused...
Be strong, sis!
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Beth Andrea

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on October 18, 2013, 01:53:04 PM
Hon, it is full moon tomorrow. I dunno about You, but I am not crazy, yet I feel it affecting me and making me more emotional and unfocused...
Be strong, sis!

Well....you might not be, but I am...a full moon actually calms me down.

I'm ok, other than the sudden feeling of WTF?! down below...some people have this all their lives, others get it later...the feeling is kinda like having a small pebble in your shoe...irritating, to say the least. But I can't just drop my drawers and shake the rocks out, because the police would be called!  ;)

I just have to...uhh...deal with it, I guess. Any tips (no pun intended, LOL)?
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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Evolving Beauty

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on October 18, 2013, 01:53:04 PM
Hon, it is full moon tomorrow. I dunno about You, but I am not crazy, yet I feel it affecting me and making me more emotional and unfocused...
Be strong, sis!

Now that's why I know why I feel so mega depressed lately.  :o I feel all my problems magnifying in my head.

And Beth you're not the only one, every single day of my life I struggle from the time I wake up and realize what I have down there. At least you you know 1 year and a half, me I don't even know if it's gonna even ever happen.

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Robin Mack

Women are/were "ruled by the moon" according to many ancient traditions... Perhaps myths that sprang up as a reason for observations?  For me, the moon is a symbol of womanhood, a comforting feminine presence, never moreso than when she is full. :)
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kathyk

Yes, that WTF feeling suddenly hits about once a month.  It's always been a short lived event so I've kinda let it pass, but now I feel obligated to track it.  Oh my head hurts, something else to think about.  :)





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Carrie Liz

Lol... I've also been having an unimaginably awful bout of dysphoria for the last few days. I tend to not believe astrological explanations, but with all the people here who are having super-dysphoric bouts at the same time, maybe there is something to it...
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suzifrommd

Hugs, Beth.

Funny how buried thoughts suddenly reach the light of day and demand attention, isn't it?

Just remember, trans women are beautiful. All of us. Even pre-op transwomen. You and I aren't shaped down below the way we should be.

But our bodies are still amazingly wonderful gifts, even with their imperfect shape, worthy of admiration by ourselves and by everyone around us.

I hope this helps. I'll be sending good thoughts your way.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Rachel

Beth, sorry for you pain.

I am usually in low dysphoria now on HRT. However, there are triggers and when that happens the dysphoria is very bad.

I went to outfest last week and I saw my past in my teens and early 20's. The desire and calling lasted 3 days, migraines, memories and depression. 

Moon, I will need to take notice.
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jojoglowe

Perhaps it's my browser, but I find it funny that dysphoria comes up as a misspelled word, with phosphoric as the suggestion. Not too far off I guess!

~I have been having the same. For most of my life, I kept my dysphoria at bay with plenty of booze and cannabis. I wouldn't recommend that treatment, they feel like lost years.

But... as I have been transitioning, I have felt an increase in dysphoria. I mean, I've always had it, and it's been really really bad, but now it is more frequent.

The way I think about it is this: Imagine you have a goal that sounds unattainable. At first you might not worry about it that much since it's just a pipe dream, but as you get closer to the actualization of the dream, it becomes more and more real, and more of a part of your life everyday. This is how transition, SRS is for me. As soon as I found out about the procedure, I knew that was my goal. It seemed so far off, but now that I am closer, I am impatient/antsy about wanting it done NOW!

Well, I don't want to type to much in here, but that's how it feels to me. I'm sure it's different for everyone but for me, the increased dysphoria is almost a sign that i'm getting closer. OK... here's the perfect analogy: on a road trip. You kinda zone out for the most part, but once you get into the destination city, you're all eyes open until you reach the final destination.

Sorry no practical advise on how I manage with dysphoria, I still use my old techniques every now and then, and when not that, my girlfriend cheers me up, and when not that, I try to think about the positive stuff in life (i love my girlfriend, i love my job, i love my life, i love my _____...) just keep going until you feel happy again! i hope it helps :D
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ErinM

I've been feeling the same as if late and my HRT/SRS timeline isn't too far off either.

When I first started looking into transition I felt rather indifferent to my parts. They were just another quirk about my body that I dealt with and went part-and-parcel with my male role in life.

As I've progressed both mentally and physically through my transition my tolerance of them has been steadily dropping.

As for my dysphoria and mood in general, I'll have one or two days where my emotional resiliency seems to be nil. I haven't been able to tie it to anything internal or external, but ever since I started tracking it in the summer it seems to come about every 21-24 days.
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Beth Andrea

Most of the intense dysphoria is gone...sort of like when we were teens and had those "accidental" erections, I just focused on other things and it went away. Took a couple-three days, but yeah, now "indifferent" is a good word.

Thanks all!  :)
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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carrie359

Quote from: Visitor_591 on October 18, 2013, 01:44:03 PM
So there I was, minding my own business...when suddenly I became severely aware that I have male parts still.

Up till now (20 months into HRT) I've been able to ignore The Parts That Be Tucked....but now it feels really....odd...not unhealthy-odd, just ARRRGGGH!-odd.

Can't wait for SRS to happen. Maybe a year and a half, thereabouts.

:(

It is when I read the forums and see posts like this that I realize the reality of my situation. I go into denial but that only last a few minutes then I am back to wanting to get the girl on.  My dysphoria seems to be getting worse and worse all the time. I tuck every day and night, yep the toes are painted and I use clear on my finger nails. 
At times I think I will overcome this and the girl takes over. 
I get my letter on the 31st....so hoping low dose HRT settles me down.
Carrie
I sometimes can't believe this is happening.. then I realize I have lived every day of my life with Dysphoria.. 
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KabitTarah

Quote from: jojoglowe on October 20, 2013, 08:26:39 AM
Sorry no practical advise on how I manage with dysphoria, I still use my old techniques every now and then, and when not that, my girlfriend cheers me up, and when not that, I try to think about the positive stuff in life (i love my girlfriend, i love my job, i love my life, i love my _____...) just keep going until you feel happy again! i hope it helps :D

That's very similar to what I do. For me I start lamenting the past and thinking about how things would have been different if... when I have to realize I don't really want that - it just all seems unfair. I have to think about what I have and, even if I wasn't really happy before, how happy I am now.

Quote from: carrie359 on October 21, 2013, 04:28:00 PM
It is when I read the forums and see posts like this that I realize the reality of my situation. I go into denial but that only last a few minutes then I am back to wanting to get the girl on.  My dysphoria seems to be getting worse and worse all the time. I tuck every day and night, yep the toes are painted and I use clear on my finger nails. 
At times I think I will overcome this and the girl takes over. 
I get my letter on the 31st....so hoping low dose HRT settles me down.
Carrie
I sometimes can't believe this is happening.. then I realize I have lived every day of my life with Dysphoria.. 

You're in the same place as me! Constant tucking (gets annoying fast, but being smooth and knowing it is well worth it), painted toes (need to re-do those tonight!), and nail hardener on my fingers...

No letter (my therapist promised one whenever I need one - he said he rarely needs to write them anymore), but I have an appointment Dec 26 with an endo. Spiro for 6 months is my plan - and I'll just be insanely happy to be rid of random hardness... and body hair... and hopefully a bit of calm (though need be I'll hold out till E).
~ Tarah ~

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