I am copying the list here, because really, some of it I think is over thinking and some I think is dumb, and I have deleted some due to my thinking that it's not realistic to even care.
Here is the list, as I have edited it, because I think some of it DOES need error correcting.
Use public restrooms without fear of verbal abuse, physical intimidation, or arrest.
I can relate here, although in my case, I can use either one, because in the end, I don't care who is next to me when I am peeing. So if I get the surgery and I have to pee sitting, and technically I am female, but life has left me looking male and I will get less grief peeing in the men's room and no one will even care, aside from I am what they think is a man in a dress, I personally don't care. I just want to pee. It's better than pissing myself in a dress.
Use public facilities such as gym locker rooms and store changing rooms without stares, fear, or anxiety.
Well until I can drop my panties, and not have a penis in them...... my thinking is more or less the same as peeing. I just want a secure place for my clothes. I don't care who is looking at my body. I couldn't care less if a gay male thinks I have a nice tool and nice taste in clothes. Just so long as my possessions are safe when I am done swimming eh. I'm more concerned for my possessions.
Strangers don't assume they can ask you what your genitals look like and how you have sex.
I'm already used to a life time of utterly moronic crap directed at heteros regarding sex by sex obsessed religions. This is just another dumb aspect of the same line of crap from the same people actually. Same people, different flavour of stupid crap.
Your validity as a man/woman/human is not based on how much surgery you've had or how well you "pass" as non-transgender.
Sadly, this is a hassle you can get from our own people, the homosexual crowd as well as the cis world. It seems everyone is judging us.
You have the ability to walk through the world and generally blend-in, not being constantly stared or gawked at, whispered about, pointed at, or laughed at because of your gender expression.
Well actually, the problem is ALL of society is doing this to all of humanity. We laugh at the short and the fat and the ugly. We laugh at the poorly dressed. And we laugh at hair styles of anyone. TG are not a special case here. I spend all the time in Tim Horton's wondering if some of the cis people actually have a mirror at home.
Strangers call you by the name you provide, and don't ask what your "real name" [birth name] is and then assume that they have a right to call you by that name.
No argument here.
You can reasonably assume that your ability to acquire a job, rent an apartment, or secure a loan will not be denied on the basis of your gender identity/expression.
But then again, you might be black and the target of racism, or not from the right economic sector, or just plain not one of them so to speak.
Prejudice comes in many forms, the TG world is not special.
You have the ability to flirt, engage in courtship, or form a relationship and not fear that your biological status may be cause for rejection or attack, nor will it cause your partner to question their sexual orientation.
Ever tried to date an Asian and not be Asian?, or again, the whole colour thing. Or possibly you are the wrong faith. Or you might be the wrong class. Love will not let a barrier stop it. But you can assume there are always barriers. People often get married for dumb reasons too.
Your identity is not considered a mental pathology ("gender identity disorder" in the DSM IV) by the psychological and medical establishments.
If I had a penny for every over medicated cis person I am aware of. But yes, I am not a chapter in your psychiatric training. I am not some form of medical condition. I might be an example of evolution though.
Hollywood accurately depicts people of your gender in films and television, and does not solely make your identity the focus of a dramatic storyline, or the punchline for a joke.
Hehehehehehehehe oh this is funny. Hollywood get anything correct? Tell me this is a joke. Hollywood is just porn with clothing.
Be able to assume that everyone you encounter will understand your identity, and not think you're confused, misled, or hell-bound when you reveal it to them.
Hmm if you are not the right faith, you will be considered confused misled and hellbound regardless. I'm already aware of this. They've told me already. I didn't need to be TG.
Being able to purchase clothes that match your gender identity without being refused service/mocked by staff or questioned on your genitals.
This IS a hassle.
Being able to purchase shoes that fit your gender expression without having to order them in special sizes or asking someone to custom-make them.
Unless life simply made you an annoying shape as well. I know plenty of girls that can't find clothes in the stylish shops.
No stranger checking your identification or drivers license will ever insult or glare at you because your name or sex does not match the sex they believed you to be based on your gender expression.
After a life time of no ID from not driving, I am pretty much used to people having trouble accepting I am anyone at all actually.
You can reasonably assume that you will not be denied services at a hospital, bank, or other institution because the staff does not believe the gender marker on your ID card to match your gender identity.
I'm Canadian, I don't actually experience trouble getting medical assistance. I have yet to encounter a bank that wants anything other than my piece of plastic. They don't care what I look like. I do my mother's banking all the time too. Machines only want those numbers correct, they don't care which human is using them.
Having your gender as an option on a form.
I have yet to actually have a problem with this. I am female, I say I am female, I have signed up for a variety of things as female. I even sometimes even use my actual name. Often I just make up names. I'm fond of Me as first name and Here as last name
Being able to tick a box on a form without someone disagreeing, and telling you not to lie. Yes, this happens.
This is just an extension of the above. I'd be inclined to stare them down. Don't cave in.
Being able to go to places with friends on a whim knowing there will be bathrooms there you can use.
This is just the whole bathroom change room again, and is redundant.
You don't have to convince your parents of your true gender and/or have to earn your parents' and siblings' love and respect all over again.
If they actually love you you have no problem, if they don't, you ditch them and move on. They're family, not the oxygen you breath. Friends are worth more to me than family that don't want me. You don't need to re earn real love.
And I have seen no shortage of dysfunctional cis persons in my life. Family, it should be better than it often is. Hey you married a specific person, not the entire family. You need the person you married, you don't necessarily need all the inlaws.
You don't have to remind your extended family over and over to use proper gender pronouns (e.g., after transitioning).
This is an aggravation of course. Just stop using theirs till they get it in their heads. Your brother will come around, otherwise call him ->-bleeped-<-. Mom either gets over it, or you can call her the family breeder. Hey, there's no rule saying you have to take it lying down.
You don't have to deal with old photographs that did not reflect who you truly are.
You can always get rid of them eh.
Knowing that if you're dating someone they aren't just looking to satisfy a curiosity or kink pertaining to your gender identity (e.g., the "novelty" of having sex with a trans- person).
Hey cis people don't have it any easier dating.
Being able to pretend that anatomy and gender are irrevocably entwined when having the "boy parts and girl parts" talk with children, instead of explaining the actual complexity of the issue
Oh if parents actually just taught their kids the real truth of sex. It's fun, it's natural, and if you don't do it right you end up parents explaining to your own kids it's fun and it's natural and if you don't do it right you end up parents explaining to your own kids.......
