So things changed a little faster than I thought. My inlaws, who I haven't spoken to since July, invited my wife and I to Thanksgiving. It was mostly due to everyone else wanting to see my wife, my 6 month old, and some people wanted to see me (everyone at Thanksgiving knows) .
My in-laws are willing to act civil, and I will too. Honestly I have only been angry when they said things that were way out of line.
For example, my sister in law made some accusations that I was going through her clothes and peeking in her room when she was in there (basically calling me a pervert). And she just told my wife that she will be acting like I'm not there. I think that's a bit extreme, but the relationship she and I had was pretty much a lie from the day I met her. At the beginning of my relationship with my wife, my SIL said my wife could do better, and I believe she's always thought that.
As for my MIL and FIL, I am basically starting over with a tainted slate. They believe I "shamed their family ". I'm not really sure how to act. Most of my wife's family supports us, except for the direct inlaws. I'll act civil, but do I apologize? I don't feel that's fair for being who I am. But I feel bad having put their family into this.
what do you think?
