Too Many Women . . .

[Gina Taylor]

When I was thinking about transition a  few years ago, my mom made a comment to me that she couldn't tolerate having four women in the house. Now I am thinking about moving in with my sister and my neice, and when I go full time, I hope that they will be a bit more open minded to the situation.

[Lauren5]

Your mother never was in a sorority, was she?

[justpat]

  Look out,if you are all the same size it could be a madhouse. My wife borrows my clothes all the time and forgets to hang them back in my closet !  Pat

[Gina Taylor]

Nope, my mom was never part of a sorority, maybe then she'd have a better idea of living with a bunch of women.

My sister and I are two totally different people, and I don't think she'd really borrow any of my clothes and there's at least two feet difference between us.

[suzifrommd]

When I was thinking about transition a  few years ago, my mom made a comment to me that she couldn't tolerate having four women in the house.

That's rich.

"You should live in a gender presentation at odds with your identity and endure the crushing dysphoria that brings along with it, because I've decided there is an arbitrary maximum on the number of females that should share a household."

It's a shame should couldn't have thought about it for a second and a half before she opened her mouth.

[Gina Taylor]

That's rich.

"You should live in a gender presentation at odds with your identity and endure the crushing dysphoria that brings along with it, because I've decided there is an arbitrary maximum on the number of females that should share a household."

It's a shame should couldn't have thought about it for a second and a half before she opened her mouth.

Very good point. My mom doesn't want me to transition and to be happy as a woman, so she likes to throw these derogatory remarks at me. I'm just curious on how my sister and my neice would feel. But I guess I'll just have to bite the bullet and ask them.

[Megumi]

Very good point. My mom doesn't want me to transition and to be happy as a woman, so she likes to throw these derogatory remarks at me. I'm just curious on how my sister and my neice would feel. But I guess I'll just have to bite the bullet and ask them.

My mom is of the same opinion at the moment. She's been trying every possible scenario/excuse for me to be X or Y or Z instead of being a trans woman. I'm beginning to think she'd just be ecstatic as could be if I just said i'd rather be gay and just stay male. She hasn't started using derogatory remarks yet as I still present male even though i'm subtly making changes to my appearance that only people who don't see me every day would notice. But I have a feeling that it's going to come down to that at some point as she has already said she just can't picture me as a woman.

What about moving out on your own? I'm lucky enough that if everything does go sour with my family then I can just cut them off and transition on my own as I live alone in another town but it would still hurt to lose them.

[Gina Taylor]

My mom is of the same opinion at the moment. She's been trying every possible scenario/excuse for me to be X or Y or Z instead of being a trans woman. I'm beginning to think she'd just be ecstatic as could be if I just said i'd rather be gay and just stay male. She hasn't started using derogatory remarks yet as I still present male even though i'm subtly making changes to my appearance that only people who don't see me every day would notice. But I have a feeling that it's going to come down to that at some point as she has already said she just can't picture me as a woman.

What about moving out on your own? I'm lucky enough that if everything does go sour with my family then I can just cut them off and transition on my own as I live alone in another town but it would still hurt to lose them.

It's kind of nice to see that I'm in the same boat as you are Megan. My mom would rather be happy if I told her that I was gay instead of being a woman as well. I think it's got something to do with losing something that she spent nine months with and gave birth to, and now I want to change that.

I'd love to be able to move out on my own and just start living the way I see fit, but unfortunately being on disability, it doesnt give you very much to go with, but I am trying to find a job to help supplement my income.

[Ltl89]

Since I live in a house with 3 women to one bathroom, I can sympathize with the sentiment of having all women in the house, lol.  In all seriousness, I'm sorry your mother isn't accepting.  I can relate in a huge way.  Do you think she can come around? Based on that statement alone, it doesn't sound like all hope is lost.  But again, I don't know everything and don't know your complete interactions with her. 

[Gina Taylor]

Since I live in a house with 3 women to one bathroom, I can sympathize with the sentiment of having all women in the house, lol.  In all seriousness, I'm sorry your mother isn't accepting.  I can relate in a huge way.  Do you think she can come around? Based on that statement alone, it doesn't sound like all hope is lost.  But again, I don't know everything and don't know your complete interactions with her.

That must be tough living with 3 women to one bathroom. At least were I'll be moving to I'll have my own bathroom. 

Perhaps with the distance between us, my mother may become more accepting to the situation. It won't be in her face day in day out. In the last few months I've been able to build a better relationship with her as well. Thanks for your vote of confidence.