Long story short, I now can join the ranks of all those that have lost a person claiming to have been a good friend, when in fact the person never really was.
Oddly my being TG rates only as a addendum a secondary note.
I have been guilty of 'using' this person apparently. I guess some people are too stupid to refuse a friendly request from a person that made the mistake of thinking it would be no big deal to ask of a friend. And to be sure, I am not guilty of asking for much. We're talking 'hey can you give me a lift over to my mom's place while you are up?'. We are talking 'I need a ride to the city, are you available?'. And never once did he bregrudge the favour. Never wanted any cash. Now years later, I find I was 'using' him.
I think over all, the person 'used' me so much more. Used me as a means to socialize with all my real friends. I'm sorry it never actually cost me anything to invite you to my place all those times. I'm sorry I never actually had to take you anywhere for us to enjoy all the activities I invited you to.
It's just that this person also claims to 'not believe' my being TG, and I guess I don't mesh with his Christian values. Screw you buddy maybe you should read your bible slower. None of my REAL Christian friends thinks much of your fake Christianity either.
But he's gone. He seems to desire being single, and I can see him getting his wish to die alone, single, childless and unremembered. Whatever heaven he thinks he is going to, I guess he doesn't expect to spend a lot of time actually knowing anyone there.
I am not saddened by his loss. He never was. I can't lose a nothing. I will mourn the passing of all my real friends. I don't miss the people I never had for real in my life though.
I contrast him with having heard my nephew, brother's eldest, is not only supportive of me (heard via his granny, my mother), but that he is also very vocal about it around the clan in Ottawa. I lost a loser and I gained a new measure of respect for my nephew.
