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Started by Wil Najera, October 26, 2013, 05:09:27 PM

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Wil Najera

does anyone know any resources for pregnant transmen? i'm 9 weeks, i'm gunna keep it, no i'm not on t currently. but i feel pretty akward and alone in this. it'd be nice to talk to or even read about other guys who've managed to make it thru pregnancy mid or post transition. anything would help.
~wiLeeuhm~
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Natkat

there is a group called transgender parents on facebook. I am not a member so I dont know if its a good group or not but you could try check.
otherwise I could ask some friend maybe if they had better advice than that? ???
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LordKAT

There is a member here who went through it. I'll leave it to them if they want to share. It can be a tough road but I'm glad you are keeping the kid. Feel free to ask if things come up.
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Joe.

I'm afraid I don't have any resources to offer you, but I do have an open ear. If you want to talk about anything at all just message me. I'm always open to talk. I have a lot of respect for you for your decision.
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Nygeel

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Wil Najera

thanks everyone. apreciate it. it definetly wasnt a planned thing, and i'll be doing this all alone. i was off t for a few months due to lack of money. and yeah.... got pregnant. my family's suportive, but it sure makes it confusing for them now. lol. they're all just getting used to using my name and correct pronouns. (it took em a while.) but it's definetly funny to go into the hospital or a doc office and be like, hi. i'm william. i'm a dude... and i'm pregnant. haha. the look on peoples faces is halarious. i have a really deep voice too. lol.
~wiLeeuhm~
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Natkat

Quote from: Wil Najera on October 26, 2013, 08:34:17 PM
thanks everyone. apreciate it. it definetly wasnt a planned thing, and i'll be doing this all alone. i was off t for a few months due to lack of money. and yeah.... got pregnant. my family's suportive, but it sure makes it confusing for them now. lol. they're all just getting used to using my name and correct pronouns. (it took em a while.) but it's definetly funny to go into the hospital or a doc office and be like, hi. i'm william. i'm a dude... and i'm pregnant. haha. the look on peoples faces is halarious. i have a really deep voice too. lol.

Im not pregnant but I dated a guy for a period who had a baby. and it somethimes brought up abit strange conversations when people started to get curious on where the baby where comming from, mostly because his gay.


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spx_1112

Good luck and keep us posted. Hugs shannon
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Femboy

There is a passage in the new "Gender Outlaws:The Next Generation" called the "manly art of pregnancy" where one guy talks about his experience being pregnant, it sounds like it would be really useful for you!

This is an awesome video about trans parents! It includes folks with lots of different gender identities
http://shelby.tv/video/vimeo/44619131/transforming-family-open-captions

Here's a website aimed at trans parents, though I haven't looked through it http://www.transparentcy.org/ 

Here's a livejournal for trans parents.  It seems to be pretty dead now, but the archives might be useful! http://transparents.livejournal.com/

Here's an awesome tumblr full of posts about trans parents! The authors of the blog could probably help connect you to resources as well, and maybe even to other people in similar places! http://->-bleeped-<-yeaverycutetransparents.tumblr.com/

Some huffpo articles on the topic (have only read 1 of them) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tag/trans-parents

This is an autostraddle post about an event for trans parents, but maybe the event contacts can help you find resources or other people? http://www.autostraddle.com/you-should-go-transparents-and-our-children-workshop-167640/
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Wil Najera

dysphorias getting to me. idk how much longer i can mentally handle it. the one thing that bothers me the most, my man tits. they became almost completely non existant on my year of being on t... now they're bigger than ever before. i'm like double d status now... mind you guys, i'm a tiny dude. 5'3" barely over 100 lbs. so it's pretty damn depressing. i dont want to be seen in public pregnant. i've been jobless and sitting on my couch for a month now and it's depressing as hell. i dont think i can handle this anymore. maybe later after top surgery i can try again. but i cant do this. :( i'm almost 3 months prego and if i feel like this for another month i dont think i'll wanna wake up anymore.
~wiLeeuhm~
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Dalex

Quote from: Wil Najera on November 05, 2013, 09:38:35 PM
dysphorias getting to me. idk how much longer i can mentally handle it. the one thing that bothers me the most, my man tits. they became almost completely non existant on my year of being on t... now they're bigger than ever before. i'm like double d status now... mind you guys, i'm a tiny dude. 5'3" barely over 100 lbs. so it's pretty damn depressing. i dont want to be seen in public pregnant. i've been jobless and sitting on my couch for a month now and it's depressing as hell. i dont think i can handle this anymore. maybe later after top surgery i can try again. but i cant do this. :( i'm almost 3 months prego and if i feel like this for another month i dont think i'll wanna wake up anymore.

Remember, at times like this it is not a bad thing to think about what is best for you in your situation. But, if I don't think it would be a bad idea telling your doctor or a therapist about this as well. Someone who can help you make that final decision on what it is you want and need to do before there is no turning back. I hope you things will work out in your favor with what it is you decide to do. And remember, many of us here will give you as much as support we can through the internet no matter what it is you decide on. :)
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Jeatyn

I was pregnant mid-transition, my daughter is almost three now.

I'm not gonna lie to you, it was the hardest 9 months of my life and there were many occasions where I wasn't sure I could cope, but I survived and now I have a wonderful family and life is awesome. That being said I wouldn't want to sway your decision either way - just offer advice that may help make the decision easier.

Feel free to PM me if you need to chat about anything and I'll keep an eye on this thread if you just want to ask any questions here.
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dalebert

Interesting timing. This was very recently posted.


chuck

Quote from: Wil Najera on November 05, 2013, 09:38:35 PM
dysphorias getting to me. idk how much longer i can mentally handle it. the one thing that bothers me the most, my man tits. they became almost completely non existant on my year of being on t... now they're bigger than ever before. i'm like double d status now... mind you guys, i'm a tiny dude. 5'3" barely over 100 lbs. so it's pretty damn depressing. i dont want to be seen in public pregnant. i've been jobless and sitting on my couch for a month now and it's depressing as hell. i dont think i can handle this anymore. maybe later after top surgery i can try again. but i cant do this. :( i'm almost 3 months prego and if i feel like this for another month i dont think i'll wanna wake up anymore.

Hey brother
Try to remember that you are going through lots of normal pregnant stuff. To be honest, I envy you. To have a living breathing piece of your flesh and blood in the world is quite a manly thing that I will never achieve, and that most transguys dont get to achieve. If you can tough this ->-bleeped-<- out you will get to be a Dad. Dude, pm me and tell me anything at all that you need or that I can help with you.

YOU GOT THIS ->-bleeped-<- BRO
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em444

I don't know if this helps at all but you should do whatever you think is the best for you in the long run. If  you decide to keep the kid, try to look at it this way: pregnancy doesn't have to be a feminine thing, you can make pregnancy as manly as you want, and that's definitely an experience many if not most cis guys would kill for! If you can, try not to see it from a trans perspective but basically imagine you've always been physically male and one day woke up pregnant and with a bigger chest, how cool is that? Most than all, remember that pregnancy is temporary and time flies, any change in your body can be dealt with later on. "My dad gave birth to me" would be quite a nice story for your kid  to tell his friends once he or she grows up xD If you decide not to keep it, that's perfectly fine too. Try to find support anywhere you can, read stories of other guys who have been pregnant. In the end you're basically getting the best of both worlds, pregnancy is a human experience and as a human you're getting a more complete enriching experience than if you were a cis woman  or a cis man. A pregnant guy is a very cool thing to be in my opinion since it doesn't happen that often. Just my two cents, I hope I didn't say anything wrong. I know it must be incredibly hard for you, don't think I'm over-simplifying the issue, but life in itself is very hard. Whatever you do I think the experience can be rewarding one way or another.
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alexclusive

I came across one pregnant FTM on Tumblr. I can give you his URL if you're interested. PM me though.
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