A guy I knew in the Navy just messaged me on Facebook to ask if I was the person he served with on the boat. I'm like, dude, there's my picture right there, you can't tell? He needed to ask to make sure? Yay, pass? Probably not, but it makes me feel better. I've said before, if I can at least muddle through with androgyny, I'll be happy. Full on "Hello, ma'am" would be great, but "Hello... friend" is fine too.