What can be done about my brows?

[PurinPurin]

22 yo MTF here, deciding whether to transition. I have a simian face and was wondering to what extent FFS can fix my rather prominent brow.



Thanks for your time.

[=celestica=]

your brow bone is nothing compared to other girls.
FFS could fix it easily but that costs $$$ obviously.
you can have the option of bangs when your hair starts growing out.

[Devlyn]

Hi Purinpurin, welcome to Susan's Place! Here's some information on FFS from our Wiki:

https://www.susans.org/wiki/Facial_feminization_surgery

How about a pic with a smile for us, that brightens up everyone! Hugs, Devlyn

[JLT1]

PurinPurin,

FFS will fix your brow.  Look at my avatar - it will fix mine because I have seen it fix even bigger.  Think $$$$ though.

Welcome.

Jen

[PurinPurin]

Daw, thanks guys.



Wall of Text incoming.

I've wanted to be girly from a young age. (dressed as a girl for Halloween, played the female characters in video games, etc.) But, I couldn't really tie my depression and need for femininity together. When I was 17, by the magic of the internet I realized I wanted to be a girl, but I was afraid and pushed it out of my mind.

Things have actually gotten much better since; perhaps because of the testosterone, I've gotten into playing sports, exercising, and having sex with women. Also, it's much easier to make female friends in high school than college, due to the bigger social pool, my self-confidence, and the fact that I've come out as bisexual (which isn't really true). Generally, the hornier I am now, the better I feel about myself, and I don't know what I'd do without libido.

I still feel like there's lots of progress I can make on the "man timeline" of my life (getting cool toys, having more sex, becoming a person of power) and I feel like I might really like it. At the same time, I'm worried that gender dysphoria will ruin all of it, especially as my testosterone wanes in later life. Even though I often feel like I "need" to be a girl, there is nothing about the girl lifestyle that really appeals to me any more, and I don't know what I'd do with myself after I changed.

My parents would be supportive if I came out. I have $10,000 saved up, and am about to graduate with an Honors degree in Computer Science in a state with transgender discrimination laws, so I know I have the capability to transition. I just need to figure out whether it's the right choice for me.

Also, I get an afro when I grow my hair out. Does this mean I would have to get a wig?

[kariann330]

1) to the getting cool toys, i have a lifted diesel that i go muddin in all the time (im getting close to a half inch of mud baked on) only difference between mine and all of the other Chevy's at the hole, mine has a pink bow tie and pink frame accessories.

2) the 'fro...no you don't need a wig. You can relax it, straighten it (think Kat Williams) or go natural with it like a bunch of people do now.

Other then that enjoy your stay here and if you have any other questions feel free to ask us....and to the original post, FFS will fix your brow really easily.

[Miyuki]

I've wanted to be girly from a young age. (dressed as a girl for Halloween, played the female characters in video games, etc.) But, I couldn't really tie my depression and need for femininity together. When I was 17, by the magic of the internet I realized I wanted to be a girl, but I was afraid and pushed it out of my mind.

Things have actually gotten much better since; perhaps because of the testosterone, I've gotten into playing sports, exercising, and having sex with women. Also, it's much easier to make female friends in high school than college, due to the bigger social pool, my self-confidence, and the fact that I've come out as bisexual (which isn't really true). Generally, the hornier I am now, the better I feel about myself, and I don't know what I'd do without libido.

I still feel like there's lots of progress I can make on the "man timeline" of my life (getting cool toys, having more sex, becoming a person of power) and I feel like I might really like it. At the same time, I'm worried that gender dysphoria will ruin all of it, especially as my testosterone wanes in later life. Even though I often feel like I "need" to be a girl, there is nothing about the girl lifestyle that really appeals to me any more, and I don't know what I'd do with myself after I changed.

My parents would be supportive if I came out. I have $10,000 saved up, and am about to graduate with an Honors degree in Computer Science in a state with transgender discrimination laws, so I know I have the capability to transition. I just need to figure out whether it's the right choice for me.

Also, I get an afro when I grow my hair out. Does this mean I would have to get a wig?

I don't know if I'm the best person to ask, because I'm not even 100% on transitioning myself, but here is what I think I've learned from the short time I've spent here The main reason a person should be looking at transitioning is because they have a female identity. That is to say, deep down inside you are actually a feminine person, and not being feminine essentially requires you to pretend to be something you're not. It's not about just having a fetish for looking like a girl. You say you enjoy doing masculine things like playing sports and having sex with girls. In my case I always hated sports (or any other testosterone driven activity), and while I was attracted to girls, I never acted on it because I was so uncomfortable taking the dominant role in a relationship. If being a testosterone driven person makes you happy, then maybe transitioning is the wrong way to go. I can tell you right now that I do not have nearly the sex drive I did when I had testosterone in my system, but personally I'm happier without it.

On the other hand, it's also possible you're engaging in high testosterone activities because you're unconsciously trying to avoid dealing with your desire to be feminine. You wouldn't be the first person to do that. If that's the case, the dysphoria very well could get worse over time, and you could regret not doing something about it sooner. The question you need to ask yourself is, do you really want the life of a girl? Do you want to be able to be feminine and do the things girls do, and be seen as a girl by other people? Or would that just be forcing yourself into a role you're not comfortable with? Take some time and think about it. I'm sure that in your heart, you know what the answer is.

[evecrook]

I think a good councilor would help you straighten out your thoughts quite a bit. Its a major decision to transition and a helping hand is always good. You have plenty of time to think about it.

[PurinPurin]

So I tried to schedule a counseling session with transgender services at my university today, but they are booked until February. What's the next step? Should I Google providers in my area and call them until I find someone who will see me? And is it at all realistic that I can get hormones in the next 4 months? I have no car and am a little short on cash, but I could save a few thousand bucks if I cancel my exchange with Japan next semester.

[kariann330]

So I tried to schedule a counseling session with transgender services at my university today, but they are booked until February. What's the next step? Should I Google providers in my area and call them until I find someone who will see me? And is it at all realistic that I can get hormones in the next 4 months? I have no car and am a little short on cash, but I could save a few thousand bucks if I cancel my exchange with Japan next semester.

Since your short on cash try finding a free to low cost counselor in your area. I go thru one and the most i have ever paid is, $10 a visit. Since im laid off from work right now my services are free. About the 4 month question yes it's very possible. You can try finding a doctor in your area, possibly even your current PCP, who is willing to prescribe under informed consent. You can also google informed consent transgender services in your area to help find them.

I went under informed consent with my therapist and got a letter for HRT in just 2 visits....one visit at the beginning of the month, one visit at the end of the month.