A straight man’s thoughts…..Let’s try this again

[V M]

CaliforniaAdmirer,
I'm completely in awe of everything you have said in your posts. I can't even express how much I relate to you. I have gone through a significant amount of pain in my life and I have always been haunted with a sense of loneliness. I just wanted to let you know that I am incredibly happy that I was able to see that there was someone else out there in the world who thought like me.
If you are familiar with Meyers Briggs personality test I am an INFP and I'd bet $100 you are too lol.
I have been curious about my attraction to "feminine" transgender women (don't want to rock the boat, there seems to be a lot of sensitive masculine MTF transgenders on here). So yeah that's basically all I wanted to say. I'm a little drunk right now so sorry if this message is confusing lol.

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[paula lesley]

So you like women. What's your point ?








Paula, X.

[Sno]

I think I sort of understand.

Just think of kareppayneoregon's image of the imprisoned female. (Edited to be correctly attributed )

Think of the female having been shut in a box, and periodically her voice can be faintly heard. The abuse beats that inner self into a form that is hard to recognise, and feel that can be loved, and certainly can't ever be allowed to express her self.

You feel hard, ugly, twisted, unlovable, unapproachable inside, and yet there are glimpses of what beauty actually lies within, through things like basic attraction, and others that take years to decode. Less, in the closet, more in the safe in the closet - for me I have always been over aware of certain aspects of my anatomy, and couldn't understand why others were not.

I'd suggest a therapist, tbh, because I feel that there is a long journey ahead.

Feeling vulnerable.

Sno

[FrancisAnn]

There are tons of men that want "trans" women. OMG you would not believe the replies from my OK Cupid profile. To me we are just woman that need some corrective surgery then we & any man can enjoy a good life together. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure glad straight men are attracted to "trans" women. Anyway that's the way I see it as a heterosexual "trans" woman.

[Mariah]

There are tons of men that want "trans" women. OMG you would not believe the replies from my OK Cupid profile. To me we are just woman that need some corrective surgery then we & any man can enjoy a good life together. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure glad straight men are attracted to "trans" women. Anyway that's the way I see it as a heterosexual "trans" woman.

Yep and one approached me while I was waiting for the bus this morning. It's an encounter I wish I could forget. Hugs
Mariah


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[HappyMoni]

I hope you are okay Mariah. Having only been full time a short period of time, I don't know how I would deal with a male approaching me, being attracted to me or otherwise. Guess I should give some thought to this before it happens. My first thought is I would poop my pants, but that is not real constructive is it? As I am attracted to women and committed to my partner, I guess I need a repertoire of ways  to brush the guy off. If I don't feel safe, I expect it would be rather traumatic. If it is respectful attention, maybe I feel good with how I present. It all comes down to respect, doesn't it?
Moni

[Mariah]

Thanks, I am. Next time I see him I will tell him to leave me alone. If he doesn't take the hint well the then the police can have him. Hugs
Mariah

I hope you are okay Mariah. Having only been full time a short period of time, I don't know how I would deal with a male approaching me, being attracted to me or otherwise. Guess I should give some thought to this before it happens. My first thought is I would poop my pants, but that is not real constructive is it? As I am attracted to women and committed to my partner, I guess I need a repertoire of ways  to brush the guy off. If I don't feel safe, I expect it would be rather traumatic. If it is respectful attention, maybe I feel good with how I present. It all comes down to respect, doesn't it?
Moni

[Del]

CaliforniaAdmirer,

Being a cisgender who has been here a while I would like to add to the conversation if that does not offend my transgender friends. I have found the few friends I have here to be very decent and kind people who have shown me much courtesy.

When you opened this post (I admit I never read any others) the talk of sex and masturbation you mentioned that was in the original was rather crude. I can't say I blame you as when I came here I knew nothing about transgender people but tales, stereotypes and such. Through the patience and kindness of those here however I was able to see them in a whole different light and admire their stance for the hell many have gone through.

Having said thus the opening post here even made it appear to me that your initial talk of sex and such may look like trolling and the personal information a means of justifying such. I am not transgender and it even looked to me like someone seeking out a fantasy seen in a dirty movie.

I don't say this to hurt your feelings. I have probably posted things which have angered some here. Never intentionally as I suspect is the case with you. With me it was just crude and quick wording without giving a matter enough thought or considering myself in their shoes. All common mistakes we can make so easily.

I see that some have welcomed you and that is great. I hope that you manage to fit in and their fear or optimism lessens. Many have been hurt so many times I do not blame them for being apprehensive of straight or cisgender men. Lord knows there are too many sickos preying on the transgender community.

If you decide to stay I hope you consider their feelings in all things and post accordingly. We are not faced with many of the things they are. Many fight depression, anxiety and suicide. Many know or have been physically and sexually abused and deserve the dignity and respect of being on a safe site where they can freely post and make friends without the fear of being harassed, intimidated or mocked in any way, shape or form.

As I say, I feel you meant no harm. When we are ignorant of the life and beliefs and pains of others it can be easy to offend. Once again, I am thankful some welcomed you and hope that you stay and earn their respect in return. They really are a great group of ladies and gentlemen and can be a blessing in their own way.

Just remember when posting here, consider yourself in all things. Before posting ask yourself if this will anger or belittle any of them in any way. While hard or even impossible ask yourself what would I think if I was transgender and read this? You'll find the longer you stay and the more you learn the more you'll see where you make mistakes posting. Just as I have over the years.

But there is another thing you will find. You'll find that the transgender community is not what most think and these people are some of the most real and down to earth folk you will find. Many far more honest than most straight or cisgender folk.

I hope this help and does not anger or belittle any of my transgender friends here.

May God bless.

[HappyMoni]

Dear Del,

I can only speak for me, but I really appreciated your post. It was very respectful. We are all learning. I had to learn that religious people would not be more likely to reject me for being transgender. I was so wrong. It is good to see a person of faith such as yourself being such a strong ally. Thanks!
Moni