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Girlfriend and Dysphoria

Started by kaylagirl0806, November 30, 2013, 12:22:44 PM

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kaylagirl0806

Hey Ladies,
I really have an important question and it's something I've been thinking about a lot. I'm in High school and I am currently dating the most beautiful girl! We have been dating for two months. The problem with this is the fact that I've heard that dysphoria just gets worse and won't get better and I don't want to let her go. Also, I don't really understand why but I've been getting hard down there thinking about being with men sometimes. I don't understand why and feel disgusted with myself. I love my girlfriend and don't want to hurt her ever. I'd even love to marry her at some point but I don't know how supportive of my transition she would be. Please Help!
Love,
Kayla
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evecrook

you can always ask her without her knowing it's you that has the dysphoria. Just general conversation making. Every bodies different.my dysphoria got worse.
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Randi

When I was 16 a more experienced girl spent months seducing me.  At first it was almost an "out of body" experience for me.   I concentrated on what she must be feeling and just let my body do what it wanted to do.  There was a real disconnect.   With time I got used to it.

I accepted that the woman would probably enjoy it more than I did, and that it was my lot in life to be male.  I was a typical hetrosexual male for over 40 years.   I had plenty of girlfriends and two wives, the last of which has been with me 31 years.

In my mid-fifties as my testosterone levels decreased and my estrogen levels increased, my body refused to play the game anymore.  Memories of my childhood when I actually believed I was a girl came rushing back.  I had buried all that deep within my psyche.

In the final assessment, I'm transsexual, but I was granted a 40 year stay of execution.  That worked out very well for me.  I have a family, a beautiful talented 26 year old daughter, and had a successful career doing what I always wanted to do.

I don't think many people want to be transsexual.  If you can fake it and make being male work for you, I recommend it.  Sex with a woman will feel good to your male body.  She has the body you feel should belong to you, but if she is willing to share it with you that may be enough for a while.

I don't see much to lose by giving it a try.

Randi



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JordanBlue

Quote from: Randi on November 30, 2013, 01:38:54 PM
When I was 16 a more experienced girl spent months seducing me.  At first it was almost an "out of body" experience for me.   I concentrated on what she must be feeling and just let my body do what it wanted to do.  There was a real disconnect.   With time I got used to it.

I accepted that the woman would probably enjoy it more than I did, and that it was my lot in life to be male.  I was a typical hetrosexual male for over 40 years.   I had plenty of girlfriends and two wives, the last of which has been with me 31 years.

In my mid-fifties as my testosterone levels decreased and my estrogen levels increased, my body refused to play the game anymore.  Memories of my childhood when I actually believed I was a girl came rushing back.  I had buried all that deep within my psyche.

In the final assessment, I'm transsexual, but I was granted a 40 year stay of execution.  That worked out very well for me.  I have a family, a beautiful talented 26 year old daughter, and had a successful career doing what I always wanted to do.

I don't think many people want to be transsexual.  If you can fake it and make being male work for you, I recommend it.  Sex with a woman will feel good to your male body.  She has the body you feel should belong to you, but if she is willing to share it with you that may be enough for a while.

I don't see much to lose by giving it a try.

Randi

Wow...yet another (what is the proper term for us?)  'late onset transsexual' ?
I had a pretty good run myself at 'faking it', but now it seems that my faking skills have totally gone to crap.  I'm 59, and I have to face the truth and deal with this head-on.  The other option is very dark...

Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly...
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Ms Grace

You could try talking to generally about "the friend of a cousin" or something equally vague to gauge how she reacts to trans* issues. That could be your first step...if she's very positive great, if not then you might have a problem! Good luck!
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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