All this very much intrigues me!
I've always had what I'd call a "creative" and sensual sex drive, in that I get bored with the act itself and it's not the primary goal for me (no pun intended!), despite the fact I adore intimacy with women and enjoy the physical sensations when I actually get round to the act itself.
Encounters have to be romantic &/or dramatic for me to be interested otherwise I'm not interested. I simply much prefer partaking in endless sizzling foreplay rather than aiming for the actual act itself (I'm one of those people who prefer the excited anticipation of Christmas Eve over Christmas Day which doesn't seem as fun after all the build up). I've come to realise that I just happen to be a person who enjoys exploring fetishes as well as enjoying beauty and sensuality. I would say that, though its not quite as common for men to be so into the creative aspects, I don't think its in any way a male trait. BUT....
...However, with myself personally, despite the above - I've realised that whilst I enjoy straight sex (as I am biologically male) with a woman, I much prefer being in the female role (be that passively or more assertively). Plus I tend to find that my skin feels waaaay more sensitive over my body then perhaps it should for a guy. And I also need to be mentally connected and emotionally connected or else I don't get aroused. I get an erection but I feel disconnected from it until I engage my mind and heart. Plus, one of the reasons why I love endless foreplay is because I find male orgasms to be so boring, I do feel as if I'm missing out on...something... I've ultimately felt quite short changed. My body seems to be very happy, but my head just feels like it was expecting extra fireworks. (and P.S... I'm not doing it wrong, trust me!
I've had amazing sex with partners, but... despite the physical reactions, its still a male orgasm and I just know that I find it VERY dull. Its very mechanical. And this does not appear to be how all the guys I've spoken to get aroused and relate to the experience, so perhaps HRT would align my sexuality better with my mind?
But then, how do we know how exactly how each gender gets aroused, and what's "male" and what's "female" until we ask people and they tell us, haha! Maybe we'd find out that there's no difference between the sexes, or perhaps there are major differences after all! Hence why I'm VERY interested in hearing about the effects of hormone influences, its fascinating finding out how the brain works!
