I'm curios and have a few questions

[yuui]

I have a few questions if you gals don't mind, a few of them might seem stupid or silly. I'm sorry if some might be a bit intrusive.

• How have your life goals/outlook changed since you started to transition?
• Was passing an important part of transitioning for you?
• Was the choice of transitioning crystal clear in your mind or did you waver back and forth?
• How much did transitioning affect your success with finding a partner?
• Did family/friends who seemed very open minded react negatively when you told them?
• Have orgasms changed in any way since transitioning?
• Have you gotten more confident since transitioning?

Here's some background/comments on why I'm curios/asking these questions:
#1 I myself don't have any life goal to speak of.
#2 For me this feels like it's really important and I don't know what to make of my chances.
#3 I seem to be wavering back and forth on this. I'm bad enough when having to make trivial decisions. I remember thinking about it when i was younger in some way but assumed it couldn't be done.
#4 Not really important since I have never even been close to having a partner as is so a reduction for me is not really possible.
#5 I have a few friends/family who give the impression of being very open minded regarding peoples sexuality/gender identity. I have very few friends, a single hand is by far enough to count them on. So losing even a single one would mean a lot. One have made positive remarks regarding an MtF e-sport player. I know that that doesn't necessary mean he would have the same attitude towards people he himself knows. Another have never voiced an opinion regarding sexuality/gender identity at all but doesn't strike me as the kind of person who would hold it against someone.
#6 I ask because I'm not sure I've ever had one, I usually just feel disappointed after finishing or just glad that the urges have gone away.
#7 I'm really shy and don't have much confidence in any part of my life except when it comes to computers and programming.

// Edited to flesh it out a bit more.

[suzifrommd]

• How have your life goals/outlook changed since you started to transition?

Totally different. Some good, some bad. Before, I always had some goal I was working toward. Now, I can just enjoy life as a girl. Also, before, my marriage was very important. Now it's all gone.

• Was passing an important part of transitioning for you?

Yes. I would have transitioned even if I never passed, but I really, really wanted to pass. I put a lot of effort into it, and it's been worth it.

• Was the choice of transitioning crystal clear in your mind or did you waver back and forth?

Not crystal clear, because, although I wanted to be a woman all my adult life, I never thought of myself as transgender. I knew I was giving up my marriage, and I had no way of knowing whether it was better.

• How much did transitioning affect your success with finding a partner?

A disaster. I used to be a good looking guy. Now I'm a plain looking woman. Have had no luck finding people to date.

• Did family/friends who seemed very open minded react negatively when you told them?

No. Nearly everyone was very supportive. My wife included, though she decided we couldn't remain married.

• Have orgasms changed in any way since transitioning?

Totally changed the very first day on low dose HRT. Felt totally female (and wonderful, but hard to achieve). Since SRS, I have not been able to have one (not for lack of sensation, though. Sensation is fine).

• Have you gotten more confident since transitioning?

Yes. Very much so. Has to do with fitting in better with both males and females.

Does this help?

[yuui]

@suzifrommd Yeah, thanks for answering. 

[Sydney_NYC]

I have a few questions if you gals don't mind, a few of them might seem stupid or silly. I'm sorry if some might be a bit intrusive.


1) How have your life goals/outlook changed since you started to transition?

My major goals career wise have stayed the same and personally have also have mostly stayed the same except that I'm more myself. Social things matter more to me though than before. My marriage stayed intact and we are closer now than ever.

2) Was passing an important part of transitioning for you?

Yes an I was willing to do what it takes to pass despite being 6'7". I was fortunate and that I started passing nearly 100% at 3 1/2 months on HRT.

3) Was the choice of transitioning crystal clear in your mind or did you waver back and forth?

I went back and forth years before, but once I finally came out to myself and my wife, I never looked back.

4) How much did transitioning affect your success with finding a partner?

I was already married for 17 years and although my wife is pansexual (prior to my transitioning) there were some ups and downs. Part of the issue is she wasn't out to her family about being attracted to women too. Now we are closer than ever and her parents totally accepted it and her. (I'm typing this staying in my in-laws house over Thanksgiving weekend.)

5) Did family/friends who seemed very open minded react negatively when you told them?

The open minded ones were all positive and even most of the conservative family members (except for 3 that are Southern Baptists) have been very positive and supportive.

6) Have orgasms changed in any way since transitioning?

Oh God YES That are so much better, longer laster and multi-orgasmic. Female orgasms are awesome!!!!!!!!

7) Have you gotten more confident since transitioning?

Yes definitely so. I'm myself, more relaxed, more outgoing and much happier. The only thing that I'm shy about is my phone voice. In person I'm fine, but on the phone, I still get nervous, but that is getting much better and my voice is pretty decent.

[TSJasmine]

• How have your life goals/outlook changed since you started to transition?
I'm happier than I ever was. I used to assume that I'd end up escorting for my surgeries but somehow all of those thoughts have diminished. I'm completely driven on getting my associates degree & transferring to uni for my bachelors.


• Was passing an important part of transitioning for you?
It used to be but now that I'm a bit older & not in a drug-induced state, I can think clearly without having to worry. I know that I'll probably be passable with no surgeries one day even though I still will 100% get them. It's just that the way I plan to get them now is drastically different compared to before.


• Was the choice of transitioning crystal clear in your mind or did you waver back and forth?
No. I was dead set on transitioning as I couldn't see myself as anything but female. My mom is very religious & is against my transition so her not ever supporting me was enough for me to wonder if maybe I should live as a guy but it was too conflicting with who I was internally & who my mom wanted me to be. I chose my happiness over hers & I'm glad I did because what kind of mom is content with her child being miserable & on the brink of suicide? Not a good one.


• How much did transitioning affect your success with finding a partner?
I've never had a boyfriend, although I can't say I will have already have had one had I stayed a boy. I'm not looking for a BF & I figure one will come to me one day. It's bound to happen, the timing doesn't exactly bother me though.


• Did family/friends who seemed very open minded react negatively when you told them?
No, not really. The stupid ones reacted just as stupid as I'd assumed & the accepting, smart ones stayed true to their ways.


• Have orgasms changed in any way since transitioning?
Yes. It's no longer as satisfactory as there is a certain sensation of release when ejaculating. I'm completely dry so it's like it builds up & just dies down. It kind of sucks, honestly...


• Have you gotten more confident since transitioning?
Yes. Before, I used to constantly worry about what others thought. Now, I couldn't really care less. I know that if I don't look like a girl then I at least look like a very girly boy which doesn't bother me at all. Also, getting through life is just overall easier as the burden of knowing my body is changing into a mans doesn't race through mind anymore.

[Nicole]

How have your life goals/outlook changed since you started to transition?
Career wise, I always wanted to work in photography, I did that and I'm still doing so.
Personally, all I wanted to be was happy, that I am

Was passing an important part of transitioning for you?
Yes, but having started in my teens, blockers by midteens I had a good chance.
If I didn't pass not too sure what I would have had.

Was the choice of transitioning crystal clear in your mind or did you waver back and forth?
From the second I worked out what I was, there was no going back

How much did transitioning affect your success with finding a partner?
Never had any issues there, I've dated and even lived with a few guys, I've had good break ups and 1 really bad one.

Did family/friends who seemed very open minded react negatively when you told them?
Family took it very well, mum laid down the law and all was right there. We moved when I went full time so all my friends know me as who I am today, the odd one knows the full story and I haven't had an issue there

Have orgasms changed in any way since transitioning?
Before hand it was ooo
Now its OOOOOOOOOOOO,
Yes they did, its a whole body thing, toes, to ears, much more emotional now as well.

Have you gotten more confident since transitioning?
Very, I'm now very outgoing, I stand up for myself and feel I could do anything

[Cindy]

I seem to continually progress and change but I thought I'd give this a go:

How have your life goals/outlook changed since you started to transition?

Yes I have become a very politically aware trans*activist and actively engage at political and media levels. No way could I have done that before.

Was passing an important part of transitioning for you?

No. Being myself is the only validation I need.

Was the choice of transitioning crystal clear in your mind or did you waver back and forth?

I knew I was female as a child, took me 50+ years to accept it.

How much did transitioning affect your success with finding a partner?

I'm married to a woman who knew I was TG before we got married. I have a BF since transitioning. My relationships are complicated to say the least

Did family/friends who seemed very open minded react negatively when you told them?

I didn't care. I gave them a choice, accept me or get out of my life. They stayed.

Have orgasms changed in any way since transitioning?

Oh goddess yes . Wonderful

Have you gotten more confident since transitioning?

Extremely. Before transition I was very shy and had difficulty talking to people even on the phone. I could fake stuff but I was jelly inside. Now I can and do walk into a TV studio and face anyone and anything.

I proudly display my hate mail for all visitors to see (it helps my cause as well

[Seras]

1) I never really had any life goals or things I wanted to do. The only things I ever did were things I was expected to do. Like university. Which I did.
2) I am still in progress ofc, but if I did not think I would be able to pass I would not do it. I have enough money now to buy everything I need for this, so despite being 25 at the start of this progress I knew I had a very good chance. In all honesty if I thought I would not be able to I would still be living my depressive life. I never got to the breaking point where I just did not care any more about anything except doing it, whatever the outcome. I have seen your pictures you honestly have no reason to doubt yourself on this point. The reason I had to clarify you had not had any HRT was because in the pictures where you had makeup you looked super good! No exaggeration, I wouldn't do that.
3) I procrastinated for ~10 years before I decided to do it. I can take 10 minutes to decide which chocolate bar to buy.
4) I have never in my life really tried properly to find a partner, never felt comfortable with it. I am still relatively early in transition but I imagine it cannot get worse!
5) No but only my immediate family knows.
6) Yes
7) I am also very shy. Maybe I am a little more confident in some situations but to be honest as said I am an mid transition atm. It is kind of an awkward place. I am more confident with myself though, and more confident in my decision to move forward with this than I have ever been. Don't disrespect computer knowledge

I hope this helps.