Sexual orientation changing after HRT?

[chibiStephy]

actually My orientation is the same, I always like mans and I'm still liking them

[BunnyBee]

You have many things going on: the hormones, your self-perception, and better honesty with yourself, like peeps said above.  I think it is the easiest thing in the world to just blame the hormones, but there is probably no way of knowing how big of a role they play.  I happen to think they do play a role, but honestly it isn't something you can know for sure.  In the end, one way or another many/most trans people experience their sexuality shifting a little to a lot after transition.  It probably doesn't matter that much which thing/mix of things is the actual cause.

My experience is I went from mostly asexual to idk...  I think I like guys now quite a lot now, but I am withholding judgement till after I am with one.  I mean at least after a kiss.  I do notice them in ways I never did with either men or women before transition,  mmmm yeahhhhh... Anyway...

[evecrook]

You have many things going on: the hormones, your self-perception, and better honesty with yourself, like peeps said above.  I think it is the easiest thing in the world to just blame the hormones, but there is probably no way of knowing how big of a role they play.  I happen to think they do play a role, but honestly it isn't something you can know for sure.  In the end, one way or another many/most trans people experience their sexuality shifting a little to a lot after transition.  It probably doesn't matter that much which thing/mix of things is the actual cause.

My experience is I went from mostly asexual to idk...  I think I like guys now quite a lot now," but I am withholding judgement till after I am with one.  I mean at least after a kiss."  I do notice them in ways I never did with either men or women before transition,  mmmm yeahhhhh... Anyway... :)Wait until you see one walking towards you on the street and you see his body from a very female mind

[kellibra]

not on hrt yet but been pondering this issue for a while now. as i explore and express my inner female more and more, it is only natural, i suppose, to wonder about the opposite sex. women have always been and still are my inspiration and passion while men do nothing for me. dressing more and more like a woman, going out in public in semi-drab to see how far i can push, wanting young girls to notice me, i have also begun to want guys to notice me. i have this fantasy of a guy coming up to me, starting a conversation and ending up with a sweet kiss and then a dfk. probably need to experience all those first times a teenage girl goes through as she discovers her own sexuality. but as i dress more fully now (although i don't have the courage to wear a skirt in public), wear bras to cover my small breasts and increasingly feel at ease being a girl, i wonder if and how hrt might change my sexual orientation. the idea of being submissive to a man or going down on him is strangely exciting.

[Just Shelly]

Based on what I have seen, it's fairly common.  I wonder if it has as much to do with hrt or shifts in how we perceive ourselves?  Perhaps it's a mixture of things? For me, nothing has really changed so far.  I'm still where I was before

For me it was more of how I am perceived,men treat me like a woman... even more than I do sometimes!

I was ABSOLUTLY!! an heterosexual man before transition....2 years in I noticed men but eh...no interest...now I would consider myself 95% a heterosexual women!! I don't know how much came from HRT...but I feel most came from being accepted as a women by men (sometimes bad...but mostly good) and being accepted as just one of the girls by other girls.

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Happened to me. Girls are nice and all but boys... there's just something about them once all your chemistry is geared towards noticing it. Beware: beards take some getting used to for the kissing. :-)

Yes men are now very visible!! Wow!! some day's more than others...and the beard thing yes!! those buggers can do damage!! I have also come to notice men's beards now, something I could of cared less about when I used to have one...I really like a man with a couple days growth and really dark! I now understand the meaning of tall, dark and handsome

[Sophia Hawke]

For me it was more of how I am perceived,men treat me like a woman... even more than I do sometimes!

I was ABSOLUTLY!! an heterosexual man before transition....2 years in I noticed men but eh...no interest...now I would consider myself 95% a heterosexual women!! I don't know how much came from HRT...but I feel most came from being accepted as a women by men (sometimes bad...but mostly good) and being accepted as just one of the girls by other girls.

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Yes men are now very visible!! Wow!! some day's more than others...and the beard thing yes!! those buggers can do damage!! I have also come to notice men's beards now, something I could of cared less about when I used to have one...I really like a man with a couple days growth and really dark! I now understand the meaning of tall, dark and handsome

You know whats funny, i think now, i know more about being a straight man than i did before i started transition.  Although, most of that comes from finding out what i like, and the type of behaviour i like.

[Just Shelly]

Oh and to add to my post....my change in preference was also after fighting it for almost a year. I kept telling myself this can't be happening...no...no! The more I accepted myself as the women I am the easier it was to accept the fact I was now attracted to men....it just feels natural now!! very strange feeling.

I do still notice a women's butt! but I feel so jealous when I see a cute one!! Breasts on other women I never did google over that much before....now if I see a women with very large breasts I am like.....wow, how do they get that big....WTF can I do!!

[KabitTarah]

My therapist adamantly refuses to believe or acknowledge that orientation can change on HRT
He is gay, though...

I still believe it's mostly set, but hormone balance plays a huge role on sexuality to begin with . . . and our balance is screwed up since birth.

[Xhianil]

My therapist adamantly refuses to believe or acknowledge that orientation can change on HRT
He is gay, though...

Therapists are still human, he could of been told to just "change his back to straight" at some point so he trys to avoid that idea.

[evecrook]

I've always been bisexual . I love being with girls as girl friend and lover. I love being with men sexually but not mentally because their brains seem not to function all that well. Since HRT my feelings haven't changed. I seem though to be having quite intense thoughts of being with a man as a woman. they are quite intense and pleasurable .

[Amy]

I'm a bit of an odd case on this I guess.

Before I accepted myself or even found out what was wrong with me I always tried to go with women. I had a few relationships but they never lasted long. It was always me not liking them and even if I saw a woman that I found attractive the idea of having a relationship with them would always turn me off. I never thought about having relationships like that with men. That changed when I met a man who saw and treated me as a woman. I was not interested at first because I had no idea what was going on but he just kept trying and trying and I thought he was so cute so I gave in.
But now what, he didn't even know what I really was and all this was causing me huge stress but I wasn't really going anywhere with my life anyway. So I set off to find out what was wrong with me with the biggest clue being that I like being treated as a woman, learned about transgender and everything, recognised a lot of that and accepted it after a while and took the first steps to start transition but that's not what this thread is about.
Back to that man, after all that I told him about myself and what the story is, he was totally fine with it and so far he is still my boyfriend for about 8 months now (I can't actually physically get to him yet and I don't want to until I am done with my transition).
Now see I some of you talking about being submissive to a man but I think I'm a bit the other way around, I really like to dominate them, tease them and have them under my control. I talk to my boyfriend about these things often and he is fine with it as long as he gets to be dominant on rare occasions too (he knew I was like this before he started with me so it's his own fault! ). I only accepted that because he allows me to be bratty when I'm "supposed" to be submissive, I will never give away all of my female dominance! This is also quite funny really because I was totally submissive as a man in the relationships I had with women but I know now that I was not being myself at all at that time.

I don't even think about going with women anymore now and I think I was never really attracted to how they look but just jealous of them somewhat unconsciously. I'd think about dominating one but even that I'm not sure about, perhaps as a tool to tease a man.

[Kayla86]

About a month before starting HRT I realized that I needed to stop lying to myself and accept the fact that I'm a straight girl... This was pretty shocking at first but now I have 0 desire to be with a woman unless she is beyond beautiful like an 11 out of 10.

I've had girlfriends that ended up being better friends and I've been married / with the same woman for the last 8 years and we're better friends now than we ever were lovers.

So I think its more when you stop lying to yourself and look deep inside your soul - you realize who you truly are.

[kelly_aus]

From the outside, it would appear that my orientation did change.. I started transition as an apprently straight girl.. And then realised that while I'd been a gay 'guy' for most of my life, I'd never actually loved one. Been in long term relationships? Sure. But I'd never loved one. Goddess knows I tried. Looking back, the people I had loved were all women - some of whom are still good friends.