Employment choice difficulties between genders

[Phoenix_2812]

Ok, so this is a relatively straight forward question for the masses.

Between boys and girls, who has the hardest time deciding what they want to do in the future, job/work-wise? I only ask because I never gave it much thought when I was younger and that now I'm 30, I still have no ambitions. I'm finding it near on impossible to decide what I want to do. I've been out of work for quite a while now and nothing really seems to interest me whatsoever. In fact, deep down inside, I've given up hope of ever getting another job because the labour market is so crap these days, especially when you never hear back from a company you've applied to for a job. Not only that, but I often feel odd when working around other people, collegues and/or customers. I would rather work for charities and do something that actually helps other people than work for an employer that hardly knows me. The so called "rat race" is something I detest with a passion.

In talking with my doctor over the last couple of years about my feelings, it more than often just sounds like I'm depressed. Or, as my doctor put it "just pissed off that I can't get a job". She said it seriously, but in a nice, almost humorously, way. I don't think she was completely wrong, unemployment has caused me to feel depressed, but I really don't think it has effected me THAT much. I feel suicidal sometimes, but not overly actively, it's often just a strong feeling I get inside. I often feel awkward around other people. I feel that I want to act a certain way, but it isn't right for my outwardly appearance. Sometimes my stance goes feminie without me even thinking. It's enough to drive me crazy. I still haven't spoken to my doctor about it.

Anyway, what do you think? Is there really a difference between genders when it comes to those sorts of choices in life?

Chris

[Xhianil]

There is a lot involving genders and jobs, try getting a engineering job as female, try getting a fashion job as a male, both are hard, i basicly ruined my future by forcing myself into a male dominated field just because it was (still deep in denial), now i want to be free and do what i want, but can't.

[Natkat]

Not sure if gender decide all that much.
sure there are prejugding if you are a female going into a masculine job and opposite, But if that really what you want nobody should stop you from doing it.
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I been pretty depressed over being unemployed.
I don't think it like you have no ambitiouns you say you want to work with something on helping people and charety it sound like a way to go.

I had abit simular problem. I went to a student guide who said I had no ambition because I couldn't decide for a work, she disagreed. insteed of focusing on the job she asked me what part of those jobs I liked,
She said it more easy finding something you like if you are focused on what the values are in those jobs and she said I had a clear ambition on the values I prefern.

out from what I read you want a job where you can be yourself and help other people, you can keep asking yourself questions like this. "what would be good and bad" maybe making a list.
theres also homepages, I dont know if they got something like that in english, but I took some test what kind of work could fit me, or what qualetys I had.
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[KabitTarah]

Male or female... I was always destined for engineering. It fits me and I fit it. I asked for a computer for my 5th birthday (and got mad when it was some sort of speak 'n spell thing) ~ and we're talking like 1983-1985 here.

I am glad I went through college courses presenting as male... but it's really not all that bad for a smart woman (I knew a few). I know specifically of some professors who would give the women lower grades regardless of how well they did on tests, though... but that sort of thing is fading away slowly.

Socially... I wish I'd begun transitioning in college... but I know rationally that it would have been nearly impossible to do that and succeed in the 90s.

[Xhianil]

Male or female... I was always destined for engineering. It fits me and I fit it. I asked for a computer for my 5th birthday (and got mad when it was some sort of speak 'n spell thing) ~ and we're talking like 1983-1985 here.

Yea its a VERY male dominated career, even in high schools. There's a total of 3 girls (cis-girls) in all the afternoon classes, 2 of them quit this semester, partly due to grades.

[Nero]

I think being trans can sometimes cause confusion as to career choices for some people. Of course, there are always people who have a specific passion and are drawn to it from a young age regardless. But there definitely is a sort of 'career division' among the genders. It seems less of an issue today, but was a bigger deal in past decades. So trans people end up in careers they might not have chosen otherwise. Males are generally pushed into male careers and the opposite for females.

Also, a lot of trans people have a very hard time envisioning adult life as their birth sex. If someone can't envision living past 30 in the wrong sex, that can have an effect on their choices.

[LordKAT]

Also, a lot of trans people have a very hard time envisioning adult life as their birth sex. If someone can't envision living past 30 in the wrong sex, that can have an effect on their choices.

This would explain a lot of why my work didn't quite go the way I wanted. I also got told out right that I wasn't wanted because of being female a few times. I hired, by phone interviews, until they saw me. Grrr.